Advice please

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Registered: 05-24-2003
Advice please
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Thu, 10-19-2006 - 1:07pm
I was in a video/dvd rental shop 2 days ago and got talking to a nice guy briefly. He obviously knew the owner of the shop quite well as he handed back a few videos and said 'those were really great!' I am a new customer in the shop (it was my first visit) and would really like to meet that guy again. The trouble is; I don't know if he is married/got a girlfriend and it would look really crass if I asked the store owner about him? What could I do? I had this silly idea about saying I thought i'd met him before or some such rubbish:)
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Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: stefania9
Thu, 10-19-2006 - 5:23pm

stefania9...

Pianoguy has two suggestions:

1. You CAN talk to the store owner, but he may or may not give you the information you desire?

or

2. Ask the man you're interested in for the titles of movies he and his girlfriend enjoy watching together? He'll either rattle off a few names...or the first words out of his mouth will be: "I DON'T HAVE A GIRLFRIEND RIGHT NOW!"

Of course...if the man you're interested in happens to be a homosexual...you're "back to square one!"

Pianoguy

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Registered: 05-24-2003
In reply to: stefania9
Sat, 10-21-2006 - 5:07pm
Well, what happened was this; the store owner knows this guy quite well; he gave him my telephone number and then when I went in today he said he had told the guy that I thought we had met before and the guy gave him his number to pass on to me! So I then rang him this evening; we had a nice chat and he asked me out tomorrow!
He is the same nationality as the last jerk I dated (probably some of you remember the person I met in the gym who wanted to use my savings...now much depleted since i do not have work here...to start a business) but there hopefully the resemblance ends! He isn't good looking at all like the last one but he is educated and seems respectful which the other guy wasn't.
Thought I had put in quite a good two day's work...maybe the store owner should set up dating agency or else maybe I should give advice on how to pick up men at video rental stores!!!
At least I did it (I hope) in as polite a way as possible; saying I thought we knew each other. Even if it seemed like a flimsy excuse I didn't hopefully come across as too brazen:) Certainly it seems to have been accepted as not being so:)
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-31-2005
In reply to: stefania9
Sat, 10-21-2006 - 6:53pm
Try to not compare the new guy with the old. He deserves a chance without being compared to a ghost!
iVillage Member
Registered: 05-24-2003
In reply to: stefania9
Sun, 10-22-2006 - 11:39am
Sure:) I don't know yet if he is (1) single (2) even wants a relationship or just a friendship 3) likes me 4) if I like him etc etc.
I think he must be interested to some extent or he wouldn't have given his number to the store owner to pass to me.
I don't think I could compare many people to the last one! Just to say I hope there aren't too many people like that around:(
Again, same problem with this guy though i.e. he is younger than I am and probably quite a bit. I try to look for single men my age but there don't seem to be too many!
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Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: stefania9
Sun, 10-22-2006 - 9:52pm

Well, you've got nothing to lose. You can just ask some innocent question based on the conversation you had - perhaps the nice guy recommended a movie that sounded good but you don't remember the name - and that would allow you to bring up this guy to the owner.

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