Advice Please

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Registered: 09-12-2005
Advice Please
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Wed, 10-12-2005 - 3:41pm
What does it mean when a guy asks if we've been seeing too much of each other? My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other everyday and he asks me this today. I don't understand if it means he's getting sick of me or if he's worried I'm sick of him. Then he asks if I'm bored with him. I know he's not seeing other people because we're together almost everyday. And he get's upset with me if I don't call him or talk to him enough. Please help.
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Registered: 10-16-2003
In reply to: janet13579
Wed, 10-12-2005 - 6:07pm

Perhaps he feels the need for some time-apart from each other. And that is how it should be. It's healthy. Do you all hang out only with each other everyday or include friends too sometimes. Start including other friends, or hang out with friends on your own sometimes, pursue interests and hobbies and encourage him to do the same. It only makes for a more healthy, balanced and happier relationship.

My ex loved to play soccer, and he would do that with the other guys some evenings. We would just hang out after that, and I'd see him even more affectionate and contented after that. During the summer, he'd call to ask if he can play pool volleyball with the guys and whether i'd like to join. So I noticed that a balance only did good. This encouraged me to pursue my own things as well. A life is made of much more than just our primary relationship. We all need to develop as complete individuals.

But keep in mind, that without trust, this cannot be handled well.