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| Mon, 11-06-2006 - 4:53pm |
I recently got back with my boyfriend. We had taken a 2 week break because of various different things. The main thing being that I would get over anxious about things. I have done some work on myself and realized that if I want to be with him, that I can't do that. I'm happy to be back with him, but what I'm having trouble with now is how to get the relationship started again. I don't call him as much as I used to (maybe once a day at most). I was in a way expecting things to go back to the way they were before the break, but I know that if I want this relationship to work they can't be the same. I haven't seen him for over 3 weeks. I guess I am looking for advice on what I could do to help this relationship.

I would completely back off and let him initiate all contact and suggestions for seeing each other at this point. Let him show you how things will be if you aren't anxious and contacting him all the time.
Im curious though...why haven't you seen each other in so long? Are you long-distance or something?
Sheri
Hmmm...why can't he drive to see you? New Year's is an *awfully* long way away!
I wonder if the reason you were anxious about your relationship before the break had anything to do with him being aloof and/or not meeting your needs?
Sheri
Ok, thanks for clarifying. Sometimes anxiety is warranted, that's why I asked, but it sounds like that's not the case with you.
So yes, I would let him call you. And I hope you get your car situation resolved soon so you can see each other but beyond telling him that your car is out of the shop, I wouldn't propose a date--let him do that.
Sheri
Edited 11/6/2006 6:18 pm ET by jewels7683