Advices please..

iVillage Member
Registered: 05-06-2004
Advices please..
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Thu, 05-06-2004 - 11:51pm
Just had a 4-day trip to Thailand for scuba diving, and I had a diving day-trip alone because my friends are non-divers.

I was buddy up with a very cute 25 yo aussie guy who is also alone, also 2 brits and a dive guide diving with us. the brits used air way faster than we do, so the dive guide took them up and left us down there so we can dive 20 more minutes. He's the best diving buddy i ve ever had, very thoughtful and careful and smart. so after the day-trip, we both wrote down emails and he told me where he would go at nite and his hotel name, which is near where i stayed.

at night, i was depressed cuz i was leavin the next morning, so i went away from my frds for not ruin their nite and walk around the beach, and then i met him and his frd near his hotel!!

we both were very happy and surprised seein each other again,went for a drink and had nice chat plannin our next diving trip, gettin to know each other... then he suggested walkin along the beach, no one on the beach only us, and after walkin for a while , we kissed and made out and wanted to have sex. but i was kinda hesitant and kept sayin that we just met today..

still we went back to my hotel at 3AM and called my frds tellin them i would be back b4 they left for airport. but my frds were pissed off cuz they've been worrying about me, so he said i should go back to be with my frds and we'd better wait and he'll visit me in HK in a few weeks.

the next day after i went back to HK, i got his email tellin me that he had great day/nite with me and hope to keep in touch and hope to meet me again.

i've been single for almost a year now, im fussy, i need my BF to be a diver or at least love water sports. it was the most beautiful nite i ve ever had in my 22 years life.

questions are,

he's certainly my type of guy, i think i like him, but is it stupid to like someone only met for a day? i dont know much about him..

would he think im easy cuz we made out on the 1st nite, he fingerin me and i grabbed him.=P

is he serious about visitin me and havin diving trip with me in future?

we live in different countries, i just got a nice job here and will graduate soon, can things work out??

i was told i m very immature, spoiled and childish by other frds, im afraid i eventually will lose him...

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-19-2004
Fri, 05-07-2004 - 2:28pm
First of all don't think like that, that is about you losing him. That's nonsense.

Yes things can work out if you want it to. You would find a way to be with each other. He should'ent think your easy, because he made out with you too. And if he is still talking to you and wanting to get together i think you already know the answer to that.

Answer to your other question is 'yes you can want to date someone the moment you see them. it is attraction that brings you to someone first' And later comes personality. Just the way things work.

i wish you the best of luck