after 10 yrs, should I leave?

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Registered: 07-08-2004
after 10 yrs, should I leave?
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Thu, 07-08-2004 - 1:13pm
My husband and I have been together 10 yrs, married for 4. And I just am not in love with him anymore. He is a negative person, and I am upbeat. He has no goals, I do. These are just a couple of our differences. We both work for the same company so I would have to find a new job. We have very few of the same friends. He likes to stay home and drink on the weekends, I would rather go spend the day at the beach. And sex with him, is the very last thing I want to do. I just don't vibe with him anymore. We have no children, so I really don't know what is holding me back, except for the fear that I will fall flat on my face. Most of my friends say "if your not happy, leave" what do you all think? I wanted to get an outsiders point of view....

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Thu, 07-08-2004 - 1:24pm
The hardest part of the journey is to make the first step. Since you have decided also that you would have to find a new job (since you work at the same place) that could be a starting point. Once you have a new job, then you would be over and done with the first of many changes. I am going to assume that you own a home together, so you will need to decide and talk with a financial advisor of the course of action you want to take with your home. If you do not wish to keep the house, you can either sell it and split the profit or he will have to buy you out of your share. If you don't own a home together then you will again have to decide if you want to keep the place you shared or move to a new location. Also you will have to split the items in the home.

No matter what you choose to do, you will have to be separated for one year before a divorce can be granted.

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