After Just One Date...........
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After Just One Date...........
| Sun, 08-15-2004 - 5:50pm |
well, we met online...we both are in the same industry - In the beginning, he was very flattered that we could have a lengthy discussion about our careers and where we wanted it to go..he even talked to me about us working as a team and also dating...Now, I'm really confused...He has my pictures and he finds me very attractive, however, ever since the first date in person, he says "to _ with business" and now I think he is really interested, but how do I know if he still respects me? Does he just want sex? He's 50 and I just turned 40 - he says I look very young for my age and he also made a comment that he really needs a business partner and I said you don't think we could work together and he just laughed and turned red and said I don't think so......I think I'm flattered, but everytime I bring up my appts and my schedule (because he asks) he just acts kinda distant and wants to keep everything personal. sometimes, he will start talking about business and he will wrap it up and say well enough about business. He has asked me to visit him in his home town, but now he wants to come here next weekend and go to church with me and then he wants me to come see him the following weekend and go to his church. It's like he has the next 3 weeks planned..is this moving too fast? I told him I'm kinda slow and sometimes I may be distant at times, but just to be patient with me. Is this a good sign or a bad sign? I am very flexible in my career and he knows I'm interested in real estate as well. He says he's looking for just one lady and not interested in being a player. I don't have any children and he has 2 in college. Please advise. Thank you.

BTW, are you using online dating for a relationship or not? If so, you have lucked out.
Why not take things "one weekend at a time?"
The only confusion Pianoguy gets from your post is whether this 'merger' between you both is actually business-related...or if it's personal? You didn't indicate how far away you live from each other, but you might want to consider an "extended day" of getting to know each other before you attend church together? .
If you think the man is moving too fast...indicate to him that you'd be more comfortable if he S-L-O-W-E-D down a little! If he's truly interested in you...he'll understand that most women don't want to be RUSHED!
Pianoguy
Sounds to me like you are a little intimidated here. I think you should agree to another date, IN A FEW WEEKS, and go from there. Don't agree to something though, if you're not feeling right about it. Trust your gut, it's usually right on.