Aftermath of a rejection

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Registered: 01-13-2004
Aftermath of a rejection
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Thu, 03-11-2004 - 2:58am
What is the best, most self preserving behavior a woman should exhibit when she occasionally has to cross paths with a man who rejected her and won't even speak to her or acknowledge her? Ignore him as he does me? Need helpful reminders.
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Registered: 10-12-2003
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 6:57am
Keep your head high and walk on by!

If anyone (ex or not) doesn't talk to you after you've made an attempt to be congenial, then forget them. When you see him, look straight ahead and keep walking...

 

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Registered: 03-08-2004
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 11:59am
I couldn't have said it better!
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 1:14pm

The best self-preserving behavior is to not acknowledge any more than the other person does. Mirror their behavior. If they smile at you, you can smile back without it having affected you in any way. If they ignor you then they can easily be ignored.


But, think of it this way, you know who you are and what you are about and you can realize that they haven't rejected you personally - they have rejected something about you maybe but they did not reject you as a person. You may not be right for them but this does not mean that you aren't right for anyone - see what I mean?


Keep your head high, chin up and walk with a positive step. Walk on by and don't stop on the corner and look back...


tg

 
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 4:31pm

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 6:37pm
If a man rejected me and our paths crossed later, I would pretend I didn't see him.
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Registered: 03-31-2003
Thu, 03-11-2004 - 11:32pm
I like your approach, theory... If someone I once dated pretended like they didn't see me, I would like to think I could take the high road and say "hello" and keep walking. In reality tho, it's hard to smile and speak to a person who is trying to ignore you.
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Registered: 01-13-2004
Fri, 03-12-2004 - 1:14am
Thanks to all, for your great advice. Wow, what a relief. I just needed a refresher course and you gave it to me. Thank you. I feel so much better and that this is definately do-able. It matters only as I live in same bldg. as him so "embarassment factor" has been at more of a "high alert" level than if that were not the case. Thank you so much.

Love, starlight208