Agggg!!! 9 years too long!

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Registered: 09-24-2004
Agggg!!! 9 years too long!
Fri, 09-24-2004 - 4:21pm
Ok. My boyfriend and I have been dating for the past nine years. We have lived together for the past two years. I love him and I can't stand him all at the same time. His attitude has changed dramatically over the past year. We fight all the time. He tells me I'm always nagging at him. Truthfully, I feel like I'm always nagging. He doesn't help me do anything around the house. I feel like I'm always cleaning up behind him and he's sooooooo dirty. He works in construction and just doesn't care about things that are important to me. He's working all the time and when he comes home he doesn't want to spend any money going out. When we do, he says its just a waste. He doesn't contribute to the house. Last month he should have paid the gas bill and he didn't. Our gas was cut off almost a week ago and he still hasn't turned it back on. He says he doesn't have any money, but he just paid his truck off ($1200) and bought a new printer. When I mention I want the gas on so I can COOK!!!! he tells me to stop whining. His mood is so different from what it was when we first were together. Had he been like this in the beginning or middle of our relationship I wouldn't even be here writing this, but after nine years it's so difficult for me to let go. I love him, but I can't stand him. Is this just a mood swing???? or ugh, will it be permanent and I have to move on, which scares me to death!!!