Is this all I am to him!
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| Mon, 09-12-2005 - 11:49am |
Hello, I am new to the board and and wanted some advice from you all. I have been on her for a while and decised to join up. YOu always have great advice.
I was seeing this guy for a while (2months) and we ended things cause I went back to my ex for almost 4 years. I was on line with him last night talking and he was telling me how much he wants me and needs me and that if I ever feel the need to have him that I can and it will be our secrete and that we can have our fun. So I told him is'nt that a booty call he said no, so I said is that all I am to you, he said no you are more than that but I want you really bad. Now I want him to but to me that is degrating to myself to go and do that and to even cheat so I would not. But what I am asking is how can a guy who says that he is falling in love with you settle for this. He knows that I am not going to leave my BF again and wants a booty call while he sees other women also. Is this what men do?
Did he never really like me in the first place and was it just lust. We have a great sexual and spiritual connection when were apart and 2gether.
I am confused.
Artist234!

Yes, you're just a booty call- so forget him and focus on rebuilding the relationship you have with your bf. You don't need to be even TALKING to this other guy, who's not only trying to get you to cheat, but also wants to be with other women. If he was *serious* about being in love with you and all that, then he wouldn't want anyone else, right?
Since you made the decision to get back together with your ex, you owe it to him to give 100% to the relationship. How do you think he'd feel if he knew that you were not only talking to this guy, but that he was proposing that you go sleep with him and "be all secretive about it..."? How would YOU feel if the situation were reversed?
So cut off the contact with this guy and keep your bf front and centre. The only way your relationship will work is if you work at it. You can't be focusing on him if you're chatting up the dirty talk with other guys. If you're unsure about things, then maybe you shouldn't have gotten back together with your ex, but rather just taken a break from the whole dating thing.
Alison