All Women Money Hungry?

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All Women Money Hungry?
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Tue, 05-25-2004 - 12:03pm
wanted ladies HONEST thoughts on this topic.

i know it's sensitive, but, it's where the rubber meets the road, and this is a forum

to do so.

do women generally go after men, for long term relationships, because of how much they make? will they forgo a relationship with a middle-class income man, to whom they're attracted to and have chemistry with, in order to be with a upper-class man, to whom they're less attracted too, less fulfilled with, but the comfort of a good life is there?

i hate to sound bitter and mean about this, but, this seems to be a recurring theme in my life. no, it's not the women i go out with, i've gone out with all different types, so, discard that notion.

are some women raised to believe, from their parents to media, that they need to find a major money maker so they will hear the three little words ...'quit your job'?

i don't understand it. it's sad. you'd think by now, most women would learn that money has nothing to do with love and fulfillment, but in the end, it's nice to have a huge house and not to have to work? is living in middle class so bad? it's having to work such a nightmare?

your thoughts please

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Registered: 05-01-2004
Tue, 05-25-2004 - 10:36pm
Not all women are money hungry. They all go for the one who treats them with respect/appreciates them.

To those who's been in poverty all their lives maybe they look like they are money hungry in search of love specially if the other person is well off. But here in America where life is good no matter how bad others may think, I would say that's not always the case.

Sometimes when people try to come up with ideas for get together they ran out of ideas or maybe just don't know what's acceptable to you so they try to come up with one that's generally accepted by most standard and there's usually money involved. Why don't you suggest other things to do that does not involve money. That way you can see their reaction if they are in it for the money or not.

Sometimes the best thing in life does not cost anything at all. Practice good judgement in dating. I'm sure someone that's a fit will come along....afterall, money never last....true love can withstand the trials of life...true love is what everyone's been searching for all their lives no matter what their financial situation is.

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Registered: 12-23-2003
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 12:50am

OK, so you are a man of comfortable means... not rich but not poor, and you take care of your obligations.

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 12:57am
It's an interesting concept...

 
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Registered: 05-26-2004
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 1:25pm
Im coming in a little bit late on this but here are my thoughts:

I would take a middle class man in a New York Minute if he had the values, chemistry, kindness and general qualities that I seek. There is NOTHING wrong with middle class. The biggest jerk I ever had a relationship with made $147,000 a year.

I have never dreamt of quitting my job except as a fantasy of being able to raise my son full time because that is what I believe would be best for him...a whole other topic however.

Hey...a modest existence with the man of my dreams...sounds like a plan to me! Wealth is nothing.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 05-26-2004 - 2:01pm
No should I repeat myself??? NO!

Sure there are plenty of women who will. But I would hazard to guess most do not. I've never dated anyone that had "money" nor would I ever go after someone just because of money. I date people that interest me, despite their income level.

Plus I make my own money. I don't want anyone saying, here stay home, because I don't want to stay home.

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