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Mon, 10-18-2004 - 3:47pm
hi everyone,

i'm 19 and am facing a dilemna

i've fallen for an amazing guy that i met volunteering for a political group at my university, we get along welll intellectually and are getting to know eachother more and more, and i find us flirting physically as well

trouble is, he has a girlfriend of a couple of years who he now lives with

i'm the last type of person to want to break up a relationship, and never thought i'd face a situation like this

but... does anyone think it wrong for me to pursue our connection without doing anything radical (physical moves, telling him, etc) in hopes that he feels the same way? i mean, its not like everyone in a relationship is perfectly content

i'm feeling really tortured by this and don't know if i should (can) move on, or if i have any hope-anyone else dealt with a similar circumstance?

thanks so much for your advice

-energiea

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In reply to: energiea
Mon, 10-18-2004 - 4:09pm
Leave him alone. He's living with someone at that. He's probably just doing harmless flirting anyway and if you were to pursue him, he'd outright say you were the one who pursued/chased him and you KNEW of his situation. He'd tell his girlfriend you were throwing yourself at him and he was totally innocent.

Also, how would you like it if you were living with your boyfriend and some girl KNEW full well you were living with him and decided to pursue/chase and seduce your live in boyfriend? I truly do believe in what goes around comes around and have been around long enough to see it happen and anyone who thinks they are immuned to it, has another thought coming.
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Registered: 04-15-2003
In reply to: energiea
Mon, 10-18-2004 - 10:33pm
Sorry but he has a girlfriend. If they break up and he is free and asks you out (hopefully after a reasonable time to get over the relationship) that is one thing. But to go over someone who is taken - well, that's quite another.

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