Am i being selfish??
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Am i being selfish??
| Fri, 06-18-2004 - 12:52pm |
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 3 months. He is currently unemployed and is on unemployment. Recently he has gotten into some trouble and has to spend a lot of his money for court costs and what not. So usually if we go out to eat or anything I am usually the one that pays, I even bought him clothes the other day which I didn't mind. It's just now he is constantly complaining that he doesn't have money to do anything. Yet, he has money to buy beer and those types of things.
So last night I told him that the money he spent on beer he could spend on me to go out or something. And he replied "I promise on my next check we will do something". I am not trying to sound shallow or anything but I wish he would pay for things every now and then or get me something. I mean he does write me sweet letters and things all the time. But, I don't know. Am I being selfish?

No, I think you were correct in letting him know how you feel.
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I don't think you are being selfish - 3 mos is a little soon to be "investing" in anyone. I'd go to dinner with my friends and just 'hang out' with him instead of paying for him. Call me cheap ;-)
I know how you feel, i was in a similar situation, I paid for everything all the time, I think he should pay for things every no and then, because it just gets old paying for everything all the time, and can put stress on you and your relationship. He does gat an income, and should be able to do something, even if he went somewhere and oicked you flowers, it would help, just to show you he is trying to do something good for you. To show he appreciates everything. I think when he gets a job things will change, you won't be the only one paying for things, so it should work out in the long run, i wish the both of you the best of luck, and maybe this will bring you two closer, you never know when it may be a good thing. Any way i hope this helps some.