Am i being too anxious?

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Registered: 07-05-2004
Am i being too anxious?
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Mon, 07-05-2004 - 7:26pm
Hey all- Just a quick note here and please someone tell me that I am overreacting, but I need to know- Whats the norm if you and a guy hit it off one night, and he asks for your phone number and says he'll call. But its been two days and no word- Does that mean he is not intrested or is a week an ok time. Please help- I really like him and I would love to see where this goes- but the balls in his court and im getting nervous-
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Registered: 04-19-2004
Mon, 07-05-2004 - 7:36pm
If its only been a couple days I wouldn't be concerned, if its been over a week, I'd chalk it up that he won't be calling and move on, if he calls great but I wouldn't wait by the phone after a week.
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Registered: 07-05-2004
Mon, 07-05-2004 - 7:49pm
Most men think that they are supposed to wait 5 to 7 days to call after a first date. Be patient. If he hasn't called you in a week, call and tell him you had a really good time and wanted to thank him.

If it helps, a friend of mine is constantly reminding me that when she and her husband were dating, he would wait a week or so before contacting her again. She said he did this for over 6 months and she always thought it would be the last time she heard from him. Men!

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Registered: 07-06-2004
Tue, 07-06-2004 - 4:33pm
Unfortunately, he may have been flattered that you were interested in him, but did not return the same feeling. It has happened to everyone. I have learned to move on after a guy doesn't call me, and not let it get the best of me. It's better to never have begun, rather than end after you are given a chance to TRULY care for this guy, right? Anyway, if it's meant to be, it will be. Unfortunately, if he doesn't call soon, it was never in the cards. Move on... next time let him give you HIS number!! ;) *wink*

PS- Also, think of the reverse. Have you ever been given a phone number, but just weren't interested enough for one reason or another to call?

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Registered: 05-05-2003
Tue, 07-06-2004 - 4:49pm
You're not anxious, you're excited. That's a good feeling. Relax and let it happen if it's going to happen. Don't sit around holding your breath. He may be nervous in calling, or he may be busy. I wouldn't go calling him, if he said he will call leave it at that. If it's been a week since you met him, you can probably assume that he won't call. Whatever the reason, don't think of it as a poor reflection of you, just a decision by him. If he doesn't call and you do see him again, don't even mention it- just be nice and move on.

What you don't want to do is get all worked up as to why he didn't call you. If he doesn't call until 2 weeks from now- he may tell you why it took so long. Maybe he had to travel out of town, he got sick, whatever.

I agree, if it's meant to be, it will happen.

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Registered: 07-17-2004
Sat, 07-17-2004 - 11:22pm
Just wanted to let you know I'm going thru the same thing right now. I met this great guy thru a friend. We hit off really great. He got my number, but I didn't hear from him. Well this week he called my friend saying he must have put my number into his phone wrong So she gave him the right number on Wednesday and now it's Saturday and I still haven't heard from him, but the thing it's been almost 2 weeks since I met him. I'm losing hope. But hopefully you will get a phone call it's only been a couple days for you.Good luck and keep me posted on what happens.