am I being too picky
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am I being too picky
| Mon, 10-09-2006 - 3:38pm |
I've been dating this person who on the surface seems to have it very well together -- nice home, steady job, good friends and family and is a nice guy overall. But there are these little things that seem like annoying little red flags. Not BIG red flags, but little ones that pop up all over the place. For example, he showed up at my place an hour late for a date because he didn't remember what time we had planned "Oh, was I supposed to be here earlier?". And has this way of perhaps wanting or expecting to be mothered, like wanting me to remind him if he forgets to pay for his share of our dates. And grooming/hygiene/self-care seem to be an issue. I have found out through this that I have a problem with men who can't take care of themselves by getting a proper diet and grooming/hygiene. I don't know, on one hand I could look at him as a "diamond in the rough" and go ahead and play mommy for a bit, but on the other hand I feel so disgusted sometimes that it squashes any attraction I might have had in the first place. I'm 35 and he's 44. Nobody is getting any younger here. He has some good traits that if I focus on can find attractive ...but some ANNOYING little problems. Any advice?

In this case, I don't think you're getting too picky. These small red flags will become huge ones in time. A 44 year old man who forgets to pay for is share on a date or has por higine habits will not change in time. He will be what you're dating.
He may be a good man indeed, but in my book poor hygine is a deal breaker. Who would want to kiss a man with toilet breath or hold the hand of a man with dirty hands/nails?
Let some other woman sharpen this rough diamond.
Mmm...those don't sound like "small things" to me!!!
Sheri