Am I being too rigid?
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| Sun, 10-22-2006 - 3:53pm |
Am I being too rigid?
Almost a year ago, I went on a couple of dates with this guy (I really like him). Then he stopped calling (I think maybe we had our signals crossed, he would call out of the blue really late at night to go out, and I would say no.)
About 7 months later he started calling again out of the blue - late night to go out. He even forgot my name. I basically told him off and thought he wouldn't call again.
Last week he called again, late night to go out. Again I told him no because I just got changed and was ready to go to bed. He still couldn't remember my name. So I think we corrected this. He didn't intend any disrespect and I made sure he changed my name on the phone. We talked on the phone for an hour. He said next time, he will call earlier.
I'm just wondering if I'm being too stuffy and what you would do? I still like him but I don't like that he can't remember my name and that he keeps calling last minute.

Call me old-fashioned, but remembering your name is a must. Who did he think he was calling?
I wouldn't mind the spontaneity of the last minute call on occassion, but not on a regular basis and certainly not if he didn't remember my name. What is it you like about him?
Thats what I asked him - I asked him if he meant to call someone else. He said he remembers me but that he doesn't speak to me on a regular basis, hence his forgetfulness. I made sure he corrected my name in his phone. I'm wondering maybe he didn't really know my name from the beginning...
Well, what I like about him is hes tall, goodlooking (lol), easygoing, fun to talk with (even though he tends to babble on), Not afraid to say whats on his mind. I like that he goes after what he wants.
I know, thats what bothers me and thats one reason I keep saying no to him.
But he said he does remember who I am, just not my name. But then again, he should've fixed it or have it automatically programmed in his mind the first time I corrected him....
No, not too rigid in the least. In fact, you taking his calls at all makes me think you're not being rigid *enough*!
Sheri
You've gone out with this guy and he can't bother to remember your name? That is not a good sign. And he really does have to make an effort to call in advance
It's about consideration and respect. You deserve both