Am I blind?? or in love??

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Registered: 08-08-2004
Am I blind?? or in love??
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Sun, 08-08-2004 - 5:51pm
My boyfriend and I have been together for about 5 months, and I'm crazy about him. But I can't really tell how he feels about me. He owns a few different stores, so he's constantly working his tail off, and I totally understand. But when he does have free time, its rare that he spends it w/ me, he usually just wants to go to sleep. Recently, I told him I couldn't do this anymore, being his "at his convience girl", and he told me he'd try harder. And he has, but when we're together, I just don't feel very close to him. I feel like he's kinda keeping me on the outside. The sex is great, but I feel like I'm more of a chore to him than a luxury. He's the 1st guy in my 24 years, that I have truely fallen in love with, and I need to know if I should just walk away. He tells me he loves me, and it wont always be like this, that in a few yrs, he'll sell all his stores, and things will be a lot easier. When we are together we have so much fun, distance but fun. Should I wait? Do I try and stick it out for this guy that I'm in love w/, but can't really tell how he feels about me? Should I move on? I'm just not sure what to do.
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Registered: 06-27-2004
Sun, 08-08-2004 - 8:20pm
Why don't you carry n with your life instead of waiting for him to be with you? Don't you have friends, hobbies, activities to do in your free time? Well, just ocuppy your time with that, if he's not available. I bet if he sees you doing that, he'll come around more often, if he really like you. Stop being so available to him, show him you also have another things to do. About that having to wait a few more years, well, I don't think you are a piece of furniture waiting to be placed in the living room and used when there is space available. You are a person who is in a relationship with another one, and a relationship is give and take. Don't give too much and receive many less. Only you can determine if it's worth it to continue, in the meanwhile, occupy your free time with some quality things. Love yourself better then you love him.