Am I crazy???

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Registered: 11-16-2004
Am I crazy???
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Tue, 11-16-2004 - 12:20pm
I need some help i have been with my boyfriend for a year we have lived together for 5 months. We both have been cheated on in past marrages. Recently he got a job where he has to be trained by his female supervisor. Well they have been starting to go to lunch alot, which i understand the company pays for. They have to eat. But it is just him and her at there branch of the company. She is supposed to be training him to have the same position as her. well yesterday he comes home and says were going bowling wendsday. I immediately get excited because he just taught me last week on our date night. Well he was talking about at work with her. apparently she is in a bowling legue and needs to practice when it's not busy so during the day they are going to go. Wasting time when she could be training him so he could work on his own sooner. that already started messing with my head. he kissed me assured me told me she was ugly and that i had nothing to worry about. Then later that night while sleeping he woke me up to scoot me over. Which he often does when i start pushing him off the bed. But as i scooted over he then stopped me and said " Sit there on your desk, while i put you stuff back", he said it groggily,he then hugged me like usual and went back to sleep. I go into thinking wosre case scenario. I immediately turn over. I guess i startled him because he was then awake and asked me what was wrong i told him what he just said, he denied it and said when have i ever talked in my sleep. it's true he never talks in his sleep thats why i was shocked. Well i got up to use the restroom. wheni came back he was on the couch. I asked him why he moved. he told me because of the way i was acting and that he could tell what i was thinking. He told me He never said that, that i was dreaming. But I konw i wasn't he made me second guess what I know. he was very defensive and said i needed to trust him. This conversation rattled me even more.

I could just be overly jelous i don't even know what he said means, but my deduction is something bad. I need to know if I sound like a crazy person please help.
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Registered: 07-24-2003
Fri, 11-19-2004 - 1:18pm
Hello gracielugodinez, welcome to the board!

 
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Registered: 06-20-2004
Fri, 11-19-2004 - 1:58pm

Well I do think you are overreacting a bit and what does it matter if she's not attractive, didn't stop my exhusband from cheating on me with an unattractive coworker.

Honestly I think you are letting your imagination run away with you. Even if he did say that it doesn't mean it has anything to do with her and her desk or anything of the such. I think you need to stop being so suspicious and trust him, he's not the guy whose cheated before, don't make him pay for your exboyfriend/husbands mistakes.

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Registered: 11-16-2004
Mon, 11-29-2004 - 4:42pm
I feel really bad about this whole thing, i still can't help but feel something is off about the situation, Re cently we went out of town because of my grandfathers death. I stayed and he came back because he couldn't miss work.I stayed for the holiday. He called me all the time said he missed me & loved me. When I got back he had bought me a promise ring. Also some lingere'. Everything seemed great then he starts telling me about work. How she talks to him about what guys she thinks are cute or ones she checks out on the job, his reply at one point is what is so attractive about him.I just have a problem with the candor of their work relationship. I mean he is an attractive guy he makes me laugh has a great personality.He makes random strangers laugh all the time. I just see this heading in a bad direction she could take his laid back personality the wrong way. I don't know i am just paranoid i guess. Do you have any insight.