Am I Dating a Dud?
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Am I Dating a Dud?
| Tue, 06-29-2004 - 8:37pm |
My boyfriend of five months began professing his love for me the first week. Within three weeks he was talking marriage. It seemed like the perfect relationship, and then . . He's taken a three week vacation with his ex-girlfriend (says they are only friends now), allowed another ex-girlfriend to move in with him (totally platonic), and rarely spends any time with me. However, as far as he is concerned everything is wonderful. In addition to his inability to release the ex's, I have to travel to his home to see him and he doesn't cover his fair share of our outing expenses. It has nothing to do with money - he makes nearly twice as much as I do. Crazy enough, I'm madly in love with the guy. I don't know whether there's really value in the relationship or whether deep down I'm a glutton for punishment. Should I stick it out? He says he doesn't intend to take any more vacations with his ex (it was already pre-planned), and his roommate will be moving out soon. He doesn't understand why these things have hurt me and thinks I'm over-reacting. I'm concerned I'm wasting my time and just opening myself up to more pain.

You know the answer...and you know why you like him so much? Because he made it easy...claiming to love you (when is impossible to KNOW someone in one week, let alone love, IMHO)...making all the "dating" akwardness comfortable and easy.
Simple question: are you happy?
I agree with the post before me. And i wanted to add something
for you to think about. I've been in your shoes. I just got out
of a year relationship. Completely one-sided. relationship. In
which your's kind of reminded me of mine.
He lived just twenty minutes from my house. Yet, he never wanted
to come over. Never wanted to spend time with me at my home or
with my family. He slowly tried to take me away from them. Talked
me into spending all my money on him. Ran up $300 or more dollar
cell bills. Which he made me promise that he would eventually get
put in his name. YEAH Right!! He never did. He never intended too.
He proposed marriage. After I mentioned. Then didn't marry me b/c
he said I didn't take him seriously. Puh-lease! This guy had no
intentions of every marrying me. IF he did, it was for the money.
He became controlling and somewhat abusive. He burnt me with a cigarette
lighter. When he said I was out of line. Just because I talked back
to him. He had this girl who he claimed was "just a friend". One day
when he was drunk. He let me hold his phone and it was titled under
my baby. Which it wasn't my number! Then I told him no sex and no
spending time together and time to go our separete ways. Big suprize
four days passed and I found out he had been with that girl and didn't
plan on telling me. I guess that he thought he would continue to see
both me and her.
My question is: Does any of this sound fimilar? and I agree with the other
women's post. Why is he still so friendly with his ex? and spends less time
with you- his girlfriend. My advice- take some time apart from him and
reevulate your relationship with him. Do u really trust him? And does he
treat you like a princess? Buy u stuff for no reason? buy you flowers or
roses or calls u back when he doesn't want something? that's just my
opion. I've learned my lesson the hard way.
If all you ever do is give,give give in the relationship. You might want to
reconsider you can e-mail me if you want to hear more about my relationship.
SingleTNChic04@yahoo.Com
Hon, you are giving this man a free ride.
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