Am I a freak?

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-15-2004
Am I a freak?
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Tue, 08-24-2004 - 11:11am
This is really embarrassing for me, but I am 34 years old and a virgin. I have dated guys, but nothing serious or long term. In fact, not much more than 3 dates or so. Don't get me wrong, I WANT to, but I don't feel like I've met the right guy yet. I feel like I am the ONLY one out there and that when I do meet this guy, he will walk away (which did happen once). I am not religiously oppossed to it, or a prude, I just feel as if I haven't met "him" yet.

I don't talk about it with my friends b/c I am the only one who hasn't. I am sure they know, but I just can't bring myself to talk to them about it.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
In reply to: summerrules
Tue, 08-24-2004 - 2:56pm
summerrules...

Maybe the prospect of having "the right man" isn't in your future? You might be a lady who is content to be single? It happens! Then again..you could be hanging out in the wrong places when it comes to a social encounter....who knows?

If you'd care to share your story with a bunch of non-biased ivillagers who don't know anything about your 'romantic encounters of the past'---I'm sure you'll get some terrific points of view?

Best wishes and warm thoughts...

Pianoguy

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-03-2005
In reply to: summerrules
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 4:32pm
No I don't think you are a freak, becaue you're not the only one like this. I am almost as old as you, and I could have written your email. I can't even talk to my closest friends about it, but I am sure they know. I'm not religious either, and I am definitely not a prude. I just hardly ever date. The longer it's been, the more afraid I feel to get close enough to anyone to have to admit it, but I will have to with whoever does finally get lucky with me (haha). I don't know about you, but I feel better knowing there's at least one other person who thinks like me about this.
iVillage Member
Registered: 01-31-2005
In reply to: summerrules
Fri, 06-03-2005 - 6:30pm

I'm right there with you two...and I'm 35!
I'm not religious nor am I a prude.

When I was younger, guys didn't give me the time of day.

As I am getting older and more confident, and men are paying attention to me, I am finding it difficult to find a guy I won't be embarrassed to say I'd been with!

I figure when I do find "the right guy" for me, he'll be amazing!