am i just his friend?
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am i just his friend?
| Wed, 12-01-2004 - 3:17pm |
I have gone on about three dates with a great guy, he's told our mutual friends that he really likes me- he wants to hang out almost every day but he has yet to make a real move besides a peck on the lips when he drops me off. Does this mean he thinks of me as his buddy or is he just shy. Any suggestions would really help.

Hi crissy,
Bellina sends greetings!Your fellow that you're enamored by seems sweet.He may be
old-fashioned or reserved in his advances.How do you feel after your kiss?Usually]
one can feel if there's a mutual feeling of attraction,and perhaps he's afraid you'll
think he's to aggressive.If you don't think he's feeling as attracted to you,casually]
say,guess your a gentleman to all the girls in your life?See if he reacts,and tells
you that there's noone else,or has a surprised look.Perhaps he's recently ended a relationship,seeing other gals or just a trifle slow in his display of affections.Only
time will tell.I've encountered many different type personalites in men. They can be
shy and reserved,others are fast and bold making advances immediateley,some are aloof
and prefer a signal to make a further advance. Body language as well as getting along
intellectually,in mutual interests,hobbies,goals usually if all clicks,then your
fellow usually will display affections.It all depends on his type personality and
the only way you'll know this is to give him time. You mentioned friends seem to think that he really likes you,and this is a positive sign for a potential love connection.I
truly believe its better to try a slower approach in romance and get to know his personality,his friends,family,career goals,common interests,etc..Also if he's looking for a love interest or just a good friend,after awhile see if you're both on the same page.I've rushed into physical passions early on,not really knowing the fellows true motives,character only to get my heart broken,take the slower scenic route in lieu of the short cut,it's far better in all aspects. Best wishes,your Brit pal,Bellina...