Am I making a big deal over nothing?
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Am I making a big deal over nothing?
| Tue, 11-20-2007 - 7:50pm |
Hi everyone,
I have been dating my current boyfriend for about 9 months. I'm 23, he's 30. Definitely the largest age gap between any other guy I've dated in the past.

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Update: So, my mom just got hooked up on a deal thru T-Mobile today where she got a free round trip flight to NY, or three other states to choose from. I text my bf this, just to let him know what a good deal she got. He text me back asking if my mom had to use the ticket or if I could use it instead...
Good news, sort of?
I'm wondering if the reason he didn't ask me IS because of how much a ticket around Christmas to NY would cost...
Another note:
After that text, he added, "Because I know people in NY." (Meaning that we could stay with instead of his parents). I told him that I unfortunately wouldn't be able to use the free flight until April of 2008 since that is the date the free flight starts on, but that I might be willing to pay for a flight myself, but it would be up to him.
He replied back, "We can wait on it. The ticket would be super expensive. It would be $600 for round trip. We can go another time when we could to go New York City and afford it."
So, to me, it sounds like he just doesn't want me to spend that kind of money just to go home with him...and he did actually ask me to go home with him.
Any thoughts?
At 9 months it's not unreasonable to wonder why he doesn't even think of asking you home - you said his parents are paying for his ticket, could it be he's embarrassed not to be able to offer to pay for your tix
You can say that you it would be nice to be together for the holiday but you definitely want him to be able to spend time with his family... you can say not that you're pressing him or want him to feel an obligation, it's ok either way but had he thought about the possibility of you going with him - again say whatever is comfortable and works best is fine but you just wondered where he stood on this
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