am i obsessed or terribly heartbroken?
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am i obsessed or terribly heartbroken?
| Wed, 11-10-2004 - 1:17pm |
met this guy about 2 years ago and we hit it off well. he's 2 years younger than me (im 19 currently). for about a year, we had been fooling around doing everything you could think of and in august of 2003, we finally had sex with each other (we were each other's 1st). because i built such a strong attraction to him mentally due to the fact that we behaved like a couple wherever we went, i told him we couldn't fool around anymore becuase i didn't want to get hurt if he ever told me he's interested in another girl (he never showed any interest in me in a relationship way) in december, we stopped talking to each other- he decided we should go our separate ways. it took me awhile and a hell of a lot of crying to get over this fact but eventually i did. in march of 2004, i called him and spoke to him about what happened in december because unfortunaely it was still bothering me and we cleared the air-or so i thought.
recently, i found myself thinking relentlessly about and mimicing the times when we fooled around and had sex and i cannot seem to get it out of my mind. i think about it everyday. since the time we had sex in august, 2003, i have been involuntarly celibate and i've been sexually deprived for 1 year now ( no sexual contact, no relationships, no dating...nothing). i want to forget about him entirely but i can't seem to do this. i think i may be going crazy but i also think that if i had sex with someone else, i wouldn't be feeling how i feel and i wouldn't be thinking of times when we had sex a year and 3 months ago. i know he most likely moved on and is now in a relationship so i would like to do the same. i don't know why i can't just live my life and forget about him. i thought i loved him but i know it was strictly lust. he was my 1st "relationship"
how can i free myself fom the trap that i've been in for more than one year before i got completely mental
recently, i found myself thinking relentlessly about and mimicing the times when we fooled around and had sex and i cannot seem to get it out of my mind. i think about it everyday. since the time we had sex in august, 2003, i have been involuntarly celibate and i've been sexually deprived for 1 year now ( no sexual contact, no relationships, no dating...nothing). i want to forget about him entirely but i can't seem to do this. i think i may be going crazy but i also think that if i had sex with someone else, i wouldn't be feeling how i feel and i wouldn't be thinking of times when we had sex a year and 3 months ago. i know he most likely moved on and is now in a relationship so i would like to do the same. i don't know why i can't just live my life and forget about him. i thought i loved him but i know it was strictly lust. he was my 1st "relationship"
how can i free myself fom the trap that i've been in for more than one year before i got completely mental
hipjaz

Start dating other people but don't jump into bed hoping to get rid of the memories of him. Face the memories and they'll have less power over you.
Good luck and keep us posted.
Just do it and done!!
i know if i dated and focused my attenion on meeting new people i may not be in this situation but it's hard for me to meet people. before the guy i speak about, there was nobody-no dates, no guy interested in me, just a bunch of guys i was interested in who eventually disappointed me. then april 2002, the guy i speak about came along and i felt on top of the world because he was interested in me( or so i thought) and i was in a "relationship" to my standings. after we stopped talking in dec 2003 and until now, there has been nobody. i've gone back to the times before the guy. guys aren't interested in me for some unknown reason. i have a lot to offer mentally, physically and emotionally but im obviously lacking something.
i think there is a hidden link that is keeping me in this situation but i cannot seem to find it.
Just do it and done!!
The fact that you haven't had other guys approach doesn't surprise me--you may be putting off a certain vibe. And that's ok. Take some time for yourself, figure things out and get back into the game when you're ready.