Am I The Only One In His Life?
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Am I The Only One In His Life?
| Thu, 10-06-2005 - 10:55pm |
Oh no! I posted a discussion Need Insight on 10/5. Well it's 10/6 and I was messing around on the computer and I went to this random dating site and the guy I have been seeing has an active profile. I was not looking to find a date. I sometimes browse when I am bored out of my mind. When I saw his picture it felt like someone punched me in the stomach and then i laughed. We have not discussed what we are, but he does know how I FEEL about him. WHAT SHOULD I DO? My first thought was to join that dating web site and let him find my profile to see how it feels, after thinking about it. It seemed like a bad, bad idea. In a way he is not doing anything wrong because we are not boyfriend and girlfriend. What do you think and what should i do?

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Definitely see your point stefania, but not all sites are like that. But you are right--you have to weed through the people to find the real ones. To me though, that's just like meeting in regular life as well. Internet dating just opens up more options. (You'd be surprised at how many women out there also treat online dating as a meat market and are just in it for one thing!)
I am just curious to hear how the fake profile paned out - I was thinking about doing the same thing but, I changed my mind and decided that I was going to leave things alone and just keep my distance from him and be a little more busier then normal and see if he gose crazy on the dating site then I will know that there is someone better out there for me
Let me know I was afriad if I did it he would figure out it was me as well
Thanks
Well, I created a fake profile but I havent'done anything with it we talked and I thought everything was fine in the past 3 days he has spent his days at work using his site stuff. I am so mad that I just don't even want to be with him any more I can't wink or anything like that because if he gose for it I will be so so mad. I would like to email mail it around to everyone in our profession because we share the same type of work career in the same area
I'm in the same position, too. I met the guy that I'm dating from an online personal ad. We never said we were exclusive, but neither of us is seeing anyone else. However, I stopped my online searching - I have no desire to look. He still has 3 personal ads up and checks the mail in them 2-3 times a week. He says that he is not actively searching for another woman, but is "keeping his options open". Yet, he spends time with me, talks to me on the phone for hours, talks about me as if I'll be in his future. What exactly does "keeping options open" mean?? He says that he is analyzing things and will know when his gut tells him what to do. I've been baffled all week by this.
jag
<< What exactly does "keeping options open" mean?? He says that he is analyzing things and will know when his gut tells him what to do. I've been baffled all week by this.>>
It means exactly that ... that he's keeping his options open to date other woman. That he isn't ready or willing to put all his eggs in one basket. Nothing wrong with that, at least it's honest.
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