Am I The Only One In His Life?
Find a Conversation
Am I The Only One In His Life?
| Thu, 10-06-2005 - 10:55pm |
Oh no! I posted a discussion Need Insight on 10/5. Well it's 10/6 and I was messing around on the computer and I went to this random dating site and the guy I have been seeing has an active profile. I was not looking to find a date. I sometimes browse when I am bored out of my mind. When I saw his picture it felt like someone punched me in the stomach and then i laughed. We have not discussed what we are, but he does know how I FEEL about him. WHAT SHOULD I DO? My first thought was to join that dating web site and let him find my profile to see how it feels, after thinking about it. It seemed like a bad, bad idea. In a way he is not doing anything wrong because we are not boyfriend and girlfriend. What do you think and what should i do?

Pages
<< They don't have an exclusive relationship, they are both free to see other people and it's just plain tacky and game playing to create a fake profile to screw with someone.>>
SS, I completely agree. It seems to me that, creating a "fake profile" is just a covert way of snooping on the other person, trying to perform some sort of PI work in lieu of direct conversation. Whatever happened to just a clean, direct approach of asking "are you seeing anyone else?"
But your allowing it???
Why not instead say, well I don't want to be with someone that is keeping his options open. I want to be in a committed and exclusive relationship, I'm sorry that you can't do that right now. Goodbye.
Seems simple.
If you are staying in a relationship simply to have one, hoping that he'll stop that eventually than aren't you changing your own values and feelings about what a relationship you want should be???? Why do that.
Edited 10/20/2005 2:40 pm ET by sniffle_sally
I don't even understand why you posted the fake profiles.
Start
Start
I know it's disheartening. You don't say how long the two of you are dating though you do say you don't have a commitment so he's not doing anything "wrong."
Pages