Am I reading into him too much 2nd part

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Registered: 05-05-2004
Am I reading into him too much 2nd part
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Mon, 05-24-2004 - 4:52am
For those who responded to my original context discussion "Am I reading into him too much", things are interesting. Still baffled, but interesting. The friendship is stronger, more honest. He called and brought back dinner last Saturday, and we sat and watched a movie. Then I left, wanting to keep it on a friendship level still. A couple weeks ago I came over on a saturday morning, since he was leaving for work he said around 4:30 am and there was a newer pontiac grand am parked in front of the house, I continued driving by. I did this for another 10 minutes. One the last trip around the block, I didn't see him in his truck. I continued to the next street over, as I came to the stop sign a vehicle approached me from behind very quickly. He pulled up next to me, trying to hide his smile, and said asked where the hell i was going. I advised " I see you have company" he replied "nope, have no idea who's car that is, but there is no one at my house. Thats been there all night, from what I know." We talked for a bit and he headed off to work. I went to his house, and the car was there for another 6 hours. Come to find out, its a renter down the street.

One of his neighbors, stopped to chat with me, and stated "ever since you've come back around, there has been no more women there and he goes no where. To work and home." She stated, he asks me all the time, "what time did she leave." I normally leave about 3o mins before he gets home. It keeps me from getting to use to having me at his house when he comes home at night(which all he does is grin from ear to ear when he comes in), around 4pm. This man is drop dead gorgeous, 6'0' 200 lbs. solid muscule from throwing around 100-200 lbs daily. Very honest. Very good character. Trustworthy.Very Kind and Caring. A bit emotionally distant. He has ex girlfriends still chasing him. However, now when they stop by, he asks me "will you come to the door with me". He told me "all they want is a sugar daddy". "I'm not going to be used anymore". Alot of people think I'm his wife. A business associate of his recently stopped by and said "I didn't know you had a wife, or that she was so pretty." Yes he corrected him. People were asking him about his "wife" when we dated also. Okay we look good together. We compliment each other. Doesn't mean we are together though.

I think he's slowly courting me though. Why? lets see, calls me after work, "Hungry, want dinner. Cool, I'll stop and get dinner. Be there shortly." The other day, he leaned over to "remove" a speck of something from my eyelash. I had just looked in the mirror, 5 mins prior, and there was nothing there. If I'm not here when he gets home, he'll let it go maybe a day or two, then he calls me with some lame excuse. When we dated, he really liked to slap my behind, hard. He's doing that again. Really likes getting close to me. Leans into me or over me often, very often. I don't want to look into this too much, its getting hard not to though. Chased me down to make sure I knew, no woman was at his house. Tells me all the time, his plans, and where he goes and when he'll be back. And sticks to it. Brings back dinner. Ask me to set up his new computer/printer and get it running,when there's directions and he darn well knows how to do it. Takes me shopping to the hardware/lumber store to get stuff for the renovation(s),and adds "We'll come back in a couple months to see if they have any new things we might want to get." He we's everything. Lets me drive his brand new truck (Yeeahhh, nice truck, fast)Messing around with me again. Still playing "sneak and peek" at me. I don't want to expect anything. 1) I am really enjoying our new and improved friendship. 2)I don't want to have a heart ache over a one sided thing. 3)I don't want to violate our friendship. 4)Batchelor for years. Very attractive, doesn't need the girl, when he's got so many chasing him. He can get the cow for free. 4)We have mutual respect for each other now.

Told me this morning-at 2:30 am, since I haven't been to bed yet, to just crash here for a few hours if needed. And then threw in "Ah, you'll probably be sleeping hard when I get home. I'll let you sleep."

I know this is long, sorry. I just need to get this out of my system. If you read my original message, maybe you remember I stated when we were first together, I was a bit emotionally unstable, due to the medications I was on and injury to the brain, which is now healed very very well. I'm THINKING, MAYBE, he's not only waiting for the friendship to be very solid, as I've stated to him before, "the only way I will get involved with anyone again is if there is a substantial friendship there, based on trust, integrity and honesty." And to possibly make sure I'm not a mess, emotionally like I was before.

I so appreciate your taking time to read this novel. Any and all input is so greatly appreciated.

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Registered: 10-12-2003
Sun, 05-30-2004 - 12:08pm
I can't seem to find your original message... would you post it in here so I can put things in context? Thanks!

 

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Sun, 05-30-2004 - 8:05pm
Well, it does sound as though things have been improving greatly for you and that he is worth hanging onto... You weathered the storm, so to speak, and apparently all is well.

 
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Registered: 05-05-2004
Sun, 05-30-2004 - 9:54pm
Thanks for looking at my situation. The original message is under Off-Topic Conversations, titled "Am I reading into him too much". Thank You very much for your input and insight. Have A Great Holiday Weekend.