Am I reading too much into this?
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Am I reading too much into this?
| Mon, 03-08-2004 - 6:43pm |
Do you believe in destiny/fate or do you believe we define our own destiny? This guy I have met the same time last year has crossed paths with me before and I am just realizing this. We both attended a small art competition 5 years ago. Both of our firms were competing for the same job (we are in the same field). We did not notice each other. Two years later I spoke to him on the phone once (I am just realizing he was the person I spoke to because he has an unusal name and I remember feeling good about the conversation we had). He called about some recommendation concerning someone his office was going to hire. Then another 2 years later, I meet him at a mutual friend's birthday party. I felt we hit it off but nothing happened because I got dragged away before we could properly end our conversation. I believe he thought I blew him off. Then a month later we see each other at this charity function and we noticed each other but had no contact. Later on that same night we bump into each other at a restaurant for a late night snack. We just looked at each other and nothing happened. Finally, I asked our mutual friend to see if he was available and would be interested in getting to know each other. This guy contacts me and we meet and we hit it off. But there have been many bumps in getting to know each other. We are both extremely busy people so we hardly see each other. I'm getting mixed signals from him and myself as to whether or not we even connect or if we are a match. I feel we connect on a professional level but not really on a personal level. I'm just unsure of our situation. I believe we are both a bit apprehensive about moving into a relationship with one another and I think we miscommunicate at many times because we're both a little shy. I feel that it is fate that has brought us together? My other question is, is there anyway to get pass the bumps or is there just no chemistry? Thanks.
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| Mon, 03-08-2004 - 7:32pm |
What I take from your message is that there isn't much chemistry and you don't feel like he's a good match for you. This is way more important than the fact that you run in the same circles and bump into one another on an annual basis. Fate may exist, but meeting someone this way does not mean fate wants you to be with him forever or even for the short-term. Maybe fate brought you together for some other greater purpose you can't even imagine but it was only supposed to be for a few dates and that is it. Like maybe if you hadn't been on your last date with him you would have been on the highway to go see a friend and been in a car accident. Now that you've been saved, move on.
| Mon, 03-08-2004 - 7:37pm |
I would ignore the so called "fate" - I have those experiences quite often - and focus on whether you like him, are attracted to him and whether the feeling is mutual.

