Am I really in love? Or am I just lonely
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Am I really in love? Or am I just lonely
| Fri, 07-16-2004 - 9:02am |
I've known my boyfriend for about 10 months, first 5 months we were friends. Lately I have been having doubts about my feelings for him. Is this natural? He was the first one to say I love you, and I do care for him deeply. Most of the time I do think I am in love with him, but once in a while I have my doubts. I know that it is too early into the relationship to be stressing out about this, but I feel horrible that I am feeling this way about him knowing he has no doubt about how he feels about me. I do not want to waste both our times....Could I be having these doubts because I am really not in love with him but just want to be with someone? I know there is no sure way to tell, and only I can answer these questions myself, but I am just wondering if anyone else has ever gone through something like this..
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Just give it a break, I think it's the best thing to do. If you're with him just because you don't want to be alone, then you have some serious self-esteem problems you have to resolve before beeing with someone. You have to learn to be happy alone before you can be happy wwith another person.
Give a break from the relationship, I think it's the best to do. And talk to him about what you feel, it's better to be honest then do just leave it this way and make him think you are investing seriously in the relationship and you're not. This will hurt him in the long run. Just be honest, with him and with yourself.
Normally, when we start questioning "do I really love him", we're not loving, period.
Edited 7/16/2004 10:44 am ET ET by southbeachgirl
I think you might want to have an honest talk with your man - take a step back and a short break if necessary to make sure what you really feel for him. good luck, there are no easy decisions, only right ones...and the right ones often hurt much more than the wrong ones! but you will sleep better knowing you did the right thing.