Am I right?
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| Wed, 11-17-2004 - 11:21pm |
I am right to choose not to speak to him again? To make a very long story short. He gets mad at me one day and shouts at me. When I ask him to explain, he refused. I in turn got royaly pissed and gave him a large piece of my mind. We have not been the same since. Whenever I attempted to be nice to him, his response is to be mean-spirited. I decided to stop trying. I had had enough. His friends tell me that I should not let that get in the way. But I can not make myself forgive him for how he behaved. I feel strongly that if he actually cared about me, even as a person, he would not be so mean. So why bother? I feel that I deserve better treatment than that. I refuse to accept his behavior. It's just not right.
The ironic part of all is that his friends tell me that I make him crazy. Am I wrong to think there is no excuse for his behavior? Am I over-reacting? I don't want to be a part of whatever that is going on inside of him that makes him act that way towards me. By not speaking to him it keeps me out of his line of fire and solves his problem. Is that childish of me? I feel that at the very least I should at least be able to say 'Hi'. Except I can't make my lips say those words. I act as if he is invisible ,even when we are in the same room.
My fantasy tells me that we are both over-reacting because we are possibly in love with each other and can't get over the feelings that are still there. If only we could just sit down and talk... Reality tells me to get a grip and move on, which I have done.(at least on the surface) I don't think I should make another attempt at trying to talk to him because I tried that and it didn't work. I don't think it's worth the risk(again).
And yet I am so uncomfortable with this cold war between us. I wish we could call a truce.
A truce is a mutual agreement. I can't be the only one willing to take that step. Shouldn't the next step be his? And if he's not willing to take that step, doesn't that tell me all I need to know? Am I wrong?

Sounds to me like the two of you are too busy trying to be “right” then to respect each others feelings.
Not a healthy relationship in my opinion.