Am I thinking too much into this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 01-29-2004
Am I thinking too much into this?
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Sun, 10-02-2005 - 11:10pm

I've been on 3 dates (and we've talked on the phone a bunch of time for a few hours at a time) with a guy I met online. So far he has everything that I'm looking for in a man. I know it's too soon to expect anything but he seems to be very interested but he's been on the dating site everyday since we started dating. I'm sure he's keeping his options open (like I should be) but I'm really interested but don't want to mess this up by being too open about how much I like him.

We're supposed to go on a date tomorrow and he was going to call today but never did. I was on the dating site a little while ago and you can check to see who's viewed you and he viewed my profile and he was online at the same time I was. So why hasn't he called? Now I'm not sure if I should make myself "available" tomorrow. I feel like I'm getting mixed signals. How should I handle this?

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-2003
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 12:06am

I think 3 dates is too soon to be deciding to take ones profile off the site or not go there anymore. At this early stage, it's common to still keep options open. Have you both discussed exclusivity? It is a mutual decision, and should come when both are ready. Until then, both have the choice to know other people. So give him the benefit of the doubt. I think you should go on tomorrow's date. You could watch his interest level, or ask him a few questions to know how he feels about the two of you. I too wonder why he did not call you when he said he would, but perhaps he would call tomorrow? Goodluck.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-01-2005
Mon, 10-03-2005 - 10:40am
Just a few dates seems too soon to decide. Just take it one step at a time and see if you like him more, as a person. The not calling when he said he would bothers me if it happens more in the future- it's important that his action matches his word. People will disagree with me on this but the phone call turns into 2 or 3, then a missed date or being late and on from there. I'd just give it more time.