Am I wasting my time?
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Am I wasting my time?
| Sat, 03-03-2007 - 9:28pm |
So I'm dating this guy and there are three issues very worthy of mentioning before I ask my question: 1)He's 10 years older than I am (I'm 28); 2) He's told me he has issues with committment & 3) I work with him. We have worked with eachother for about a year but recently began dating in mid-November. After we became intimate on New Years eve, he became distant and I could feel his behavior changing toward me. After about one week of this behavior, which was very hurtful, I called him on it and ended the relationship and suggested we remain just friends since we have to work together. A week after, we inadvertantly ended up in the same birthday party of a mutual friend. He apologized for his behavior, told me he really did like me and explained he acted the way he did because he was scared. He also asked for another opportunity (no I did not sleep with him that night!). We've been dating happily for about a month and a half and he has opened up a lot more but in the back of my mind I'm afraid he'll hurt me again and worse yet, I'm starting to fall for the guy. Am I wasting my time?

I have no idea if you are wasting your time but this guy certainly gives himself a very quick out of this relationship with the "I have issues with committment" and the "I'm scared" lines. He can bolt whenever he wishes because he has already forwarned you.
At age 38 he should be able to man-up and be able to handle an adult relationship.
meesh713...
Pianoguy thinks you're dating a man who enjoys "dealing in opposites!"
Most men aren't going to profess their deep love for a woman and then turn around and indicate that they have 'commitment issues?'
Maybe the 2 of you need to figure out and explain to each other whether you've got A FRIENDSHIP or A CASUAL RELATIONSHIP? I don't get the vibe that the man wants to take the next step forward and GET SERIOUS WITH YOU!
Sorry!
Pianoguy