Am I wasting my time?
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Am I wasting my time?
| Thu, 07-15-2004 - 12:08pm |
I have been seeing a guy for about two months now. We have a great time together and I have developed feelings for him. The problem is that he has this dream about pursuing a musical career and does not see himself staying in this area for the long term. I accept that and have always thought of our relationship as one that was not going to be forever, but the other night at a party I overheard him telling his friend about how amazing I was and how much he liked me and that the only problem was that he wasn't sure if a long term relationship was for him right now until he can "figure out what he wants", but that his plans "might change". This is really confusing for me..he doesn't know that I overheard his conversation and I don't want to tell him. I just don't know what to do now. Do I continue on with him and see if he changes his plans, do I continue with our relationship the way it is now, or should I just end it now knowing that at this time he is not in the long-term frame of mind and may never be? I am just afraid that by staying with him, I risk falling in love and then being broken hearted. I know that he has feelings for me, but am I just wasing time?

I'd talk to him regading "where" you're going as a couple and put your cards on the table: I want a steady relationship. I feel that I could have this with you, but I also know that you have your dreams and want to pursue them out of state. I'd like to know if you are in a position to commit to me and to a long term and exclusive relationship.... leave it open and then listen to what he has to say. After that you'll know wher you stand and will know what to do.