Am I wrong to date my ex's new friend

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Registered: 05-20-2004
Am I wrong to date my ex's new friend
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Fri, 05-21-2004 - 10:57am
Me and ex boyfriend have been broken up for one year and just two weeks ago my cousin wanted me to meet this guy, which i just found out is my ex boyfriend's new friend. Well, me and him started talking on the phone and now he wants to start taking me out places on dates.

My ex's new friend have already talked to my ex about dating me and my ex boyfriend told him to go on head and talk to me if the chemistry feels right. What Do I do?

Do you think I would be wrong if I start dating my ex's new friend?

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Registered: 10-12-2003
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 1:35pm
Your ex knows and is ok with it so there should be no bad blood between you two if you're friendly so why not?

But you have reservations it sounds like--what are they? If your gut is saying no, I would listen to that over anything else.

 

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 3:46pm
I have answered you before but to restate it...

 
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Registered: 10-12-2003
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 4:19pm
You're absolutely right--ex's don't dictate our lives BUT if you are friends with them, it can be *very* uncomfortable...

 

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Sat, 05-22-2004 - 4:26pm
Yes, it can. And, I agree... but, comfort is something that you have to create for yourself. By that I mean that how you react to any given situation will govern your own comfort level...

 
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Registered: 05-23-2004
Sun, 05-23-2004 - 1:04pm
Dear jbabygirle,

He's not your ex's new friend he may be your new boyfriend leave the ex out of it. The bonus in this is you met him other ways than thru your ex and you owe your ex no loyalty. Enjoy your young self. Life is too short. kimik8