Analysis Paralysis and Dating
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|Wed, 04-17-2013 - 12:42pm|
First... it's been a million years since I actually had what I would call a "relationship", and quite honestly, I am still trying to figure out if this THING upon which I have embarked lately can be placed in that category.
The short version: I met a guy at a Superbowl party through a mutual friend who had known him for years. I thought we connected, but when the friend who introduced us expressed romantic interest in him, I backed off (actually encouraged them getting to know each other better). Over the next couple of months, the three of us would show up at various events together and though our interaction was minimal, there was still that "something". I was surprised when he did ask me out because of my perception that he and our mutual friend had been communicating. He assured me that wasn't the case and even had a candid conversation with her regarding where they were before I agreed to go out with him.
That was two weeks ago. Since our first date on April 6th, we have seen each other at least six times. We are constantly communicating, and we generally enjoy each others company... WITHOUT sex. Here's the clincher: he's being deployed Friday and won't be back for several months (hence, the dating frequency. He said he wants to spend as much time with me as possible before he leaves).
He's doing all the right things, saying all the right things... even agreeing to wait before we hit the sack, and I can't help but think: What's the catch?
Have I been exposed to so many jerks that I can't accept a good guy when he comes along, or should I be worried? Is my own internal dialogue potentially sabatoging this "relationship"?
Incidentally, he bought me an international cell phone so we can keep in touch, and we set up Skype accounts so we can communicate while he's gone. I think it's too soon to have the "where is this going" conversation (his actions seem to point towards continuing to get to know each other), yet the suspense is killing me.
Should I just relax and go with the flow and stop trying to define everything? If so, how do I do that?