Angry! She gave him a Valentines gift

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Angry! She gave him a Valentines gift
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Thu, 02-15-2007 - 11:56pm

Am I to jealous? I'm dating a 52 yr old guy that is going thru a divorce. I'm 37 yrs old. We have a great relationship. I love him & he says he loves me.

Last nite, I attended an event at his job. I was running late so we didn't sit together. After the event was over. I was walking towards him and notice a girl hand him a medium size gift bag. I stormed over with an atttitude and yelled "hello" He could tell I was pi$$ed. When she walked away I asked who was she.

He said that she's a 24 yr old co-worker. Also, she has another job in the clothing business. So, she gave him a shirt and a pair of pants. He said she gives clothes/gifts to other people all the time. She a nice lady.

Why would she give him a gift on Valentine's Day? Isn't Valentines Day a day for lovers only or do friends/co-workers give gifts as well. My gut feeling is something is going on between them. He denied it and said she's old enough to be his daughter. I argued with him until 2:00 a.m. about receiving that gift. I threatened to breakup with him. Am I overreacting? I don't like another woman dressing my man.

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Registered: 11-21-2003
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 12:06am
IMO, you're overrreacting. V-day is for lovers and friends. In my place of work, coworkers give other coworkers gifts. If he says she's a friend, believe him. Has he given you any real cause to indicate that he's cheating? Arguing with him about your ideas of his cheating and threatening to break up the relationship over a gift is calling for trouble. He may be a good man and love you, but he could get fed up with this is it keeps on happening. By your comments about reaction, you seem jealous and possessive and THAT is bad news, for you.
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Registered: 05-31-2005
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 12:39pm
What is it exactly that is making you think there's something going on? Has he done other things that causes suspicion?
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Registered: 11-13-2006
Fri, 02-16-2007 - 3:12pm

Ok... maybe I'm a little old-fashioned, but I happen to agree with you that it's a little "improper" for a woman to give a man an intimate gift like a shirt and pants.

Jilly