another bits the dust

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Registered: 04-08-2004
another bits the dust
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Wed, 05-19-2004 - 12:21pm
i've known this guy since i was young. we got back together Jan of this year, we even were engaged. last night i called it quits. it all started when we got back together everything was going fine until i found out about his ex. she was his financial (cruch)so when we got together he was dependant. i help for a while then he cheated on me. we got back together afterwards but we really never talked about the situation and i really never forgave.. that just put a strain on our relationship. well he pulled a disappearing act sunday and i was feed up. i am very insecure and i panic easily. not only did i have his (2yr old) son and had to got to work that morning, i hadn't heard from him since 9pm the night before. eventally he came about 7am and i said nothing. i didn't call him all day and he eventaully called me at work and asked what's wrong i replied nothing, he talked for a while then i brushed him off the phone. i really had nothing to say to him. After i got off of work he came over the house, we didn't really talk about the situation i argued about it. i told him that night i didn't thinkl that he had changed he replied ehy did i fell that way. i told him he's distant, hadn't be sexually active with me for 2 days and wants to spend forver and a day with his loser jobless friends. he told he i was jealous of his relationshipo with his friends and i said u just spend more time with them then me. he was like sometimes he just wants to hang with them and then i call his cell phone and if he doesn''t answer i call 50 more times or come looking for him and that upsets him. i said that if he would just answer the phone or call more i would call as much. (i do agree that when he doesn't answer i think he cheating) so anyway he inturn went to sleep and the next day came. i told him home and went to work.later that day at work he told me that we need to talk about us before we think about getting married.,i was like ok i'll call you later. he said ok. (now take it i've being wearing my ring thru the thick and thin) i didnt hear from him when i got home and i called him (alot) no answer. i finally spoke to him about 9pm and he said that he's not ready to get married and that he's not leaving me but he needs to be able to run the streets if he want , when he wants with and i need to trust him. i told him i could do that and that i never he would leave me too (like others had). so he was like either i except it or we can't be together (not as blunt as i wrote it but just to sum it up) so we argued and i cried and replied that i always make people leave. so i hung up. later that night i packed up his stuff because he was staying with me and took it to his house and left it on the porch. i dont know if he was there or not but i left him a mesage that his things were at his house, because when ever we break up he wants his stuff. i just tool him everything because i'm tired of hurting.. now what and why!!! i love this man with all my heart and all he do is hurt me......

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Registered: 05-29-2003
Thu, 05-20-2004 - 7:59am
Let's see...he depends on women to support him financially, he disappears routinely, he dumps his 2 yr old on you (don't tell me-let me guess. They were never married - right?) He runs around with losers like himself, and wants to be able to "run the streets."

He sounds like every woman's dream. Count yourself lucky that he doesn't want you. Now go and find a REAL MAN.