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| Sun, 08-12-2007 - 11:25pm |
Hi. I am 21 and I am seeing a 21 year old also. We met this summer in NYC and we had 5 dates so far. When we go out he takes forever to grab my hand..usually doesnt grab my hand or touch me till towards the end of the date....he isnt very affectionate with me. he really doesnt compliment me either about my looks or anything, which I am used to from most guys. Tonight when he dropped me off on our 5th date, he just gave me a peck on lips..and i saw him yesterday and he gave me a little more of a kiss, but not much. I dont understand. While its nice he respects me and wants to get to know me, I dont understand why he doesnt want to kiss me more or touch me more like most other guys. I know he likes me...and we have a good time on our dates..but how do I know if there is a sexual chemsitry missing? Holding my hand isnt a big deal..maybe hes nervous or shy? I want him to want to want me more in a physical way, and i dont want to rush it at all..is it normal for me to want him to be a little more enthralled with me and is this a bad sign? I mean, 5 dates is not much afterall. I know he likes me, he asked to see me again....but what gives? Hes just shy and getting to know me right?
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| Sun, 08-12-2007 - 11:45pm |
Some people dont like to show affection verbally or physically. Your guy may be one of those guys. Or..you may be right..no chemistry. Also, he may not compliment anyone. You two may not be a good match that way. You can ask him if he is normally physically affectionate with people. I haven't dated in a long while, but I think I still am a physically affectionate person, and touchy feely when I speak to someone with whom I am dating. And I dont like having to wait 10 dates to kiss someone - it needs to happen on the first date. And no "peck on the cheek" or lips...it needs to be a real kiss - open mouth and tongue. What happened to dating? When did everyone get so stingy with the kisses? He could be shy...so you might want to make the first move to get things going. Does he seem nervous to you?
| Sun, 08-12-2007 - 11:49pm |
Not soo nervous. He seems to think before he speaks. the wise guy. Sometimes its funny..h i more energetic and less shy..but other times he seems very shy. We got to my apartment and he like talked and i was just waiting for him to pull me in and kiss me. i am very traditional. I grabbed his hand first tonight and he grabbed it later on. I like dominant guys who make the move and ake initiative..i just wana understand if hes trying to know me better..or what. I like him but a little more kiss here or there would be nice..even if its been only 5 dates.
| Mon, 08-13-2007 - 7:04pm |
I dont blame you. After 5 dates I would start to wonder myself. You could bring it up to him or just make the move yourself. If I sense that a guy is nervous on our first date, and I like him, then I usually make the first move towards a kiss. I find that the rest of the evening goes really well when I do that. If I were you I wouldnt date him too much longer without him showing some real interest in that way.
