Any thoughts?

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Registered: 04-20-2007
Any thoughts?
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Thu, 07-12-2007 - 11:40am
What do YOU think it means when a guy you've been dating for two months (and have been good friends with for years) says "I want to see where this goes"? And please, don't say "it is what it is"...I'm looking for some friendly insight :)
Thanks!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-12-2007 - 12:33pm

I'd be thinking that's a positive thing for him to say!

Why, what did you think when he said it?

Sheri

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Registered: 11-30-2006
Thu, 07-12-2007 - 3:27pm

I would think that he meant that he is open to seeing if this relationship grows into one that is long term and more of a serious relationship than casual.

But I know what you mean. I tend to err on the side of caution when it comes to men and their intentions. I never assume monogamy unless he states that he wants a monogamous relationship. I dont assume that I am his girlfriend unless he addresses me that way. I dont assume that he sees the relationship as one that is more serious in nature unless that is what he says.

If it was me I would have probably asked him "what do you mean by that?" So that I am not left assuming anything.

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Registered: 09-15-2003
Thu, 07-12-2007 - 4:30pm
he wants to see what type of future you will have...like he literally wants to see what happens and he's looking forward to it. guys literally say what they mean..they're not like us..they dont say things to make us think...
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Registered: 04-20-2007
Thu, 07-12-2007 - 8:25pm
I thought it was very positive--that was my initial gut reaction. As in "I really like you and I think there's something here." I am just curious to hear opinions. I have gotten so much insight from this board.