anyone believe in luv @ 1st sight?
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| Tue, 06-22-2004 - 2:57pm |
i guess its not entirely luv at first sight, but ive only gone with this guy once. we had been talking for a long time via email and IM (9 months). this connection we have was/is so strong, i told him we couldnt talk anymore because he had a gf at the time. he was honest about it and said things were too diff between them so he would prob be single again. that was about 8 months ago. and now he is single. he didnt come looking for me online, it was thru one of my friends. and we just started talking sicne we had a lot in common and i felt an immediate connection as did he.
anyhow we finally met in person saturdya. we spent all day and night together. we talked non stop and everything felt so natural and comfortable. i feel like ive known him forever. i am so in love with him and its not any other type of love ive been in before. its different this time.
i'm jsut flabergasted - because i never believed in this before now. I'm trying my best to hold back for the sake of protecting my heart. and i tend to be guarded alot of times with dating. with him its like i dont even think of being guarded unless i start to analyze which is often, but more than not w/ me... I just open up.
Anyone else experience this in success?

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I think it's only true for people through 20/20 hindsight when things work out...basically it's strong infatuation that grows into love. Love takes deep knowledge of a person, and that doesn't come overnight or just through talking...it only comes after spending months of consistent time together and observing *behavior* as well as words.
Sheri
agreed it is lust at first sight, then grows into love.
ive just never really felt that way about anyone either - lust @ first sight.
Sheri
But in answer to your question, yes, I am still married after many years to a man with whom we both felt at our first meeting that we'd found someone right for us...and it lasted (which I think is what you mean by love at first sight). :-)
i agree its lust at first sight more than love at first sight.i guess ive never really felt that much of a passion or eneryg right off the bat with people. all the relationships ive been in have been so/so. I felt passion after somet ime, but never right off the bat. so thsi is new to me.
Because there is no reality for you to view in this non-contact venue...there is just you hearing what is said, putting your own interpretation on it because there is no reality based, impactive contact - and making assumptions nad projections about his character as a result of that type of "interaction"..
Very risky.
Basically -you've divulged alot in a forum that you considered "low risk" - and that is why you "felt" this incredible connection. There is the assumption that what you said - as you meant it - is what he heard and that he's in alignment with your values, your needs your goals.
So while you should enjoy this giddy feeling - realize it's not a fact, nor a call to action...and enjoy it for what it is while you get to know him...vs. your projections nad assumptions that have created "prince charming".
Erin
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Looking back at the moment I felt I had met someone that I connected with immediately, I realized that what made that encounter seem so trustworthy and comfortable was my feelings were reciprocated in full effect. Wow! He had me at eye contact.
I was played. He was practicing his best lines and behavior on the silly trusting girl I was.
So be careful.
lightship
I probably shouldn't answer, because you asked if anyone experienced "luv @ 1st sight" and had success.
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thx everyone for the insight but sometimes you just got to let loose and experience the feelings. i feel as though ive lived my life like all of you, level headed & guarded against a giuy hurting you...and its gotten me Nowhere. its actually hurt me from dating some really great guys because i was so into the rules, the dating etiquette. the times ive let loose are the times ive had the greatest relationships.
So no I dont know if this will last forever. But for right now, this is great. Love at first sight - is more of a play on words in my eyes. Lust at first sight and i do know this. Was wondering if anyone had this work out when they felt so much of a connection at first and it turned into something more?! Obviously the unanimous vote is no. I really was in that party as well - and may still be, but I think this guy will be diff, at leaset for a little while ...
Thanks.-S
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