anyone believe in luv @ 1st sight?

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Registered: 08-22-2003
anyone believe in luv @ 1st sight?
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Tue, 06-22-2004 - 2:57pm
i have never been a believer in this until recently.

i guess its not entirely luv at first sight, but ive only gone with this guy once. we had been talking for a long time via email and IM (9 months). this connection we have was/is so strong, i told him we couldnt talk anymore because he had a gf at the time. he was honest about it and said things were too diff between them so he would prob be single again. that was about 8 months ago. and now he is single. he didnt come looking for me online, it was thru one of my friends. and we just started talking sicne we had a lot in common and i felt an immediate connection as did he.

anyhow we finally met in person saturdya. we spent all day and night together. we talked non stop and everything felt so natural and comfortable. i feel like ive known him forever. i am so in love with him and its not any other type of love ive been in before. its different this time.

i'm jsut flabergasted - because i never believed in this before now. I'm trying my best to hold back for the sake of protecting my heart. and i tend to be guarded alot of times with dating. with him its like i dont even think of being guarded unless i start to analyze which is often, but more than not w/ me... I just open up.

Anyone else experience this in success?

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 06-22-2004 - 8:56pm
I don't think anyone's saying don't enjoy it!!! It's a great feeling. But don't suspend rational thought and your powers of observation, either.

Sheri

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Wed, 06-23-2004 - 3:43am
I'm not so sure about the love at first sight thing seeing how u cannot love someone until you know who they are and what they are about....BUT i do think there is the whole chemistry thing and spark factor....when u have both of those with someone right off the bat it really leads the way to much better things in the future!!!
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Registered: 12-23-2003
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 10:44am

I'm kind of surprised at your response to my post... you seem annoyed.

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Registered: 06-20-2004
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 12:43pm
YES! I've had experience with this. If you've read any of my other messages in here I've talked a lot about my boyfriend. We met online, went on for 1 yr. We lived about 3000 miles away from each other. I felt a connection almost immediately, but I started dating someone that lived close to me and he was waiting for someone to fly up to meet him. In fact for the first several months I dated maybe 4 or 5 different guys that lived near me. I mainly continued dating because my (now) boyfriend lived so far away. My reason for continuing to date was because of the distance and how would a relatinship like that EVER work out. Anyway, I do know of at least 2 women that flew up to meet him and at least a few others that he corresponded with during that year. Well, a year passed and I finally flew up to meet him. I knew at the airport, when he wrapped his arms around me and gave me a kiss that he was the ONE. The night before I was to fly home he said something like, "well, you know you could move up here". I didn't respond and just continued into a different conversation. Even though my feelings were so strong I jus thought that this kind of thing just doesn't happen. 2 weeks later when we were talking I asked him if he was serious. Well, 4 months later I moved so that we could be together. When I asked him when he first fell for me he said that it was the first time we were on our web cams. That was 6 months before we saw each other. He said that he felt that I wast he one when he first "saw" me. Niether one of us said the word "love" for quite a while, but I knew we were in love without even saying it.
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Registered: 08-22-2003
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 5:00pm
sounds so similiar to my experience with this guy. except he lives close to me. but we met while he had a gf. and it was unintentional, my friend hooked us up thru this one website- has nothign to do with dating. but we thought each was cool, and kept in touch. anyhow, i was dating several people throughout the last 9 months.

when we finally met up saturday - it was a bit like magic. we both had been waiting for that moment for a really long time, i know i had been waiting (secretly) for him to break things off w/ his gf. And he told me a montha go when he asked if i was seeing anyone, that he hda always wished he were single so he could go out with me.

I knew when he & i met there would be no question that we were meant to be. why i never agreed to meet him in person before since he had a gf.

i saw him walk thru the plc where i was waiting for him, and i melted. HIs energy was so positive and hes just got a great aura around him.

I don't know- things make sense with him just because then i think about it in reality terms, and it doesnt make any?!

Whatever is meant by him being in my life right now, I love it.

-S

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Registered: 08-22-2003
Wed, 06-23-2004 - 5:05pm
not annoyed with your post, but that there were no positive experiences with this. i wanted to hear one or two yesterday and there were none. apologies. no one said anything bad, nor was i that upset. just a bit shocked, no good experiences.

lets face it, good relationship, lasting ones i agree with everyuone's response... are built upon time and getting to knw someone thru a relationship. But there are those exceptions where things just feel right from the beginning then last. More than not, I guess good rs develop slowly and over alot of time.

i'm hoping and really believe this guy is different.

thanks again for responding, didn't mean to sound ungrateful!

-S

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