Approaching the Man of my Dreams-Help
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| Sat, 12-03-2005 - 7:11am |
Hello everyone,
I really need solid advise (ideally, from MEN) on what to SAY when meeting a guy of one's dreams !!!!
I am in love. I want to marry this guy. But I have never met him. Known him since 5 years. I know he has other admirers. There is competition. I am up against other girls vying for his attention.
I don't wanna mess it up. I am sincere in what I feel. I want him to see that.
I have a question for the MEN: What would you like the girl to say in that first meeting. Would you rather the girl just be "casual and friendly" and forget about the "love part", or would you rather, the girl be "upfront, wear her heart on her sleeve, and directly ask him out?".
I am SO confused!
I dont want him to mistake my approach as just friendliness, but i want him to see i want to go WAY MORE Farther with him. BUT at the same time I dont want him uncomfortable, or think me to be NUTS.
I really need some advise from the guys...
Thank you so much.
PS: Ofcourse, even if you are a woman, please feel free to comment. I just thought getting a man's opinion would be very valuable, coz I feel like knowing, how exactly a man might think in such a scenario. Every comment would still be very useful. Thanks everyone........

How do you know he's the man of your dreams if you have never met him?
Mia, how about you reword this question and say:
"There is a man I am interested in getting to know better but I have not had a conversation with him yet?"
How should I approach him?
Hey - I've been there - you are a woman driven by passion of the heart. There is nothing wrong with that - but like the other posters say, you have to fit yourself into reality and play the game in the status-quo way... he very well may be the man of YOUR dreams, but as I have so often found out, that doesn't necessarily mean (unfortunately) that you will be the woman of HIS dreams.. so to give yourself the best possible chance of getting him to give You the best possible chance of finding out - we have to get you to make contact. I would like you to tell us a bit more detail - where have you been seeing this guy for five years? Do you think he's noticed you at all in that time? I can't really offer solid advice on a communication strategy unless I know the parameters... i mean, if he's a TV anchorman, it is going to require a completely different approach than say, the guy who runs the local fish market ; ) !!!
share the details... mabye we can help make your dream come true for at least a coffee...