appropriate time to call

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Registered: 08-03-2005
appropriate time to call
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Wed, 08-03-2005 - 9:15am
Let's say you meet a guy on a fri/sat/or sunday and you exchange numbers. Do you think it's always best for him to be the one to call? Also when do you think is the most common time as when guys would call after getting your number? Does it vary? I've been told that any later than thursday of that week means to basically foget it. Thoughts?
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 9:44am
Never say never but usually it's better for the guy to call, and guys are often last minute creatures - calling for a weekend date on the weekend. But initially, if he calls, say on Thursday for that weekend i'd maybe say you were busy until sunday, the idea is he shouldn't get the idea you'll always be there at his beck and call
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Registered: 08-03-2005
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 11:32am
do you think sometimes guys might want to call sooner, but wait because they dont want to come off as too eager/desperate?
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Registered: 02-14-2005
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 12:38pm

My two-cents is yes they do wait, but you can't generalize ALL of them. Guys seem to wait at least a couple of days to call, in all beginning stages of the relationship. I do believe that once he initially gets your number, he should call within five days to a week, if he is truly and deeply interested in you. The more time they take to dial my digits, the less interest they seem to have in me- from my experience.

Good luck and I would let him call you.

Take Care!

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Registered: 08-03-2005
Wed, 08-03-2005 - 4:38pm
well i guess i'm feeling hurt/annoyed that he hasnt called ): i just would rather someone NOT ask for my # if they didnt feel they'd really call
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Registered: 06-13-2003
Sun, 08-07-2005 - 9:12pm

Hey there,

how long has it been so far? I personally think a week is a good rule of thumb but 2 weeks would be my cut-off, I think after 2 weeks unless the person has been out of town, that they are just sort of thinking of you as a second thought or they are bored. I hate the beginning of dating relationships, and I'm going through it right now myself!! So we can commiserate together. I met a guy last Friday night and he asked for my card but I didn't have one. I didn't want to be too pushy so I didn't offer to go get a pen... I was kicking myself later and by thursday i'd gotten his number from a mutual connection (we had both established that we knew a particular person when we first talked). I called him on the thursday (so almost a week later) and he seemed really thrilled that I had gotten his number and called. He asked what I was doing for the weekend but I was busy... but I invited him to a bbq I was having because I didn't want to be rude. He didn't come to the party and I haven't heard back yet... so now it's in his court... I'm waiting (as patiently as I can possibly do!!) but can't help but wonder if/when he will call me.... I would very much like to see him again and though I'm crazy busy I still think about it.. dating sucks!!!!! good luck and keep us posted