ARE THERE STAGES OF A RELATIONSHIP???
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ARE THERE STAGES OF A RELATIONSHIP???
| Mon, 02-19-2007 - 3:45am |
I have a dilemma, I think…? My boyfriend and I are going on nine months and we are still in the I need you, I have to have you, can’t get enough of you stage, where we can spend hours at home just hanging out or exploring each other….putting aside the fact that I am petrified of love, I am scared that we will always be stuck in this stage, and its really hard right now because during the week I am at school and can’t see him, so I am always so upset. I just want to be happy with him but also away from him…. Shouldn’t this lusting stage be over by now…?

lovely_lady06...
Pianoguy suggests you ask yourself one question:
"If the man who loves me suddenly started paying attention to someone else...COULD I HANDLE THE REJECTION?"
Most women probably couldn't?
While I can certainly understand your nervousness about LOVE and taking one step forward...all of us eventually reach a time when we have to figure out if we're investing our time in a friendship? Or something more serious?
I would think that you'd know about your TRUE feelings after seeing the same man for 9 months...but perhaps YOU DON'T?
Pianoguy
Yes, there are stages to a relationship but I don't necessarily think that there's set timeframes for any of them. If you're still in that in love phase, that's great. I would just enjoy it. If you're worried though, ask yourself some questions like do you really know this person? Can you talk to him about anything? Do you feel safe to share any thought or desire?
As for feeling sad when he's not around, I think it's very normal to miss someone you love. I think the difference is in whether or not you're able to continue on with your life. If it depresses you to the point where you don't want to do anything, then yes, that's not so good. But if it's just normal missing where you can't wait to see him again I think that's very normal.
Hope this helps.