Are These Legitimate Deal Breakers?
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|Fri, 08-09-2013 - 11:02am|
I've never been really "good" at dating, so I often seek other opinions about my experiences. Here goes...
I went on my third date with a guy and we really seemed to be hitting it off well. We decided to go hiking (something we both enjoy), and I informed him that I would meet him at the trail head with my dog. I sensed hesitation which led to the discovery that he isn't a dog person. He didn't say he hated them, but that he thought that keeping a dog in the house was disgusting. Maybe I should have cancelled the date then, but I have a bad habit of writing men off for the smallest of infractions, so I decided to keep the date but still bring the dog (all 9 pounds of her) just to see the interaction between the two.
Needless to say, it didn't go well. He basically ignored her at first (all she wanted was a friendly belly scratch) and reluctantly held her leash while I took a bathroom break. My dog is extremely well trained and small, and she has converted "non dog" people to a comfortable tolerance level, but I could see that it wasn't happening and was up front and honest with the guy about how important the dog thing is to me. I told him that it was totally OK if he wasn't into dogs, but I couldn't really seriously date someone who didn't accept my dog. I compared it to not accepting someone's kid (which may seem extreme, but I don't want kids ever and choose dogs instead).
So, the date seemed to get a wee bit tense after that, but I didn't expect him to take a call from another woman during our date. On our first two dates, I never even saw his Iphone, yet moments after our candid conversation, he answered several texts then actuallly answered a call (clearly from another woman that was not a family member or an emergency situation) RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME! He even ended it by saying: I'll call you when I leave. I was flabergasted!! I didn't say anything, but I determined right then and there that we would NOT be going out again.
So, the date ended with a tense goodbye hug and that was it. My question is: the dog thing... is that a good reason to not date a person? And the phone thing... did I over react? I just felt like that was disrespectful. I may have even considered giving the guy more time with the dog, but after that I was just over it.