Are these normal dates?
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Are these normal dates?
| Wed, 03-15-2006 - 7:56am |
I met this guy 6 weeks ago & I've been to his house once & when he finally asked me to do something two Saturday's ago. He suggested making me dinner at my house since he had not seen it yet. I thought it was a great idea b/c I just renovated my home & I wanted him to see it & plus I had to get up at 7am the following morning. He brought all the food over & we had a great time, good conversations, great dinner & nice kisses after. Well he called me Sunday & asked if I wanted to have dinner tonight which I agreed to but then he mentioned coming to my house to make dinner together again. I agreed but now I want to tell him I'm in the mood for sushi so we can go out to eat. I like to be taken out. But my question is are these normal dates to go to someone's house & make dinner or is this just an excuse to try & hook up or is it that he doesn't like me enough to take me out?

I think making dinner together is a great date activity, as it's relaxing, involves team work, and is intimate. You get to spend time getting to know each other. And maybe this guy had such a great time making dinner with you the first time, he wants to have that again with you.
As for whether he is using that as an excuse just to get into your house and hook up, only you can answer that. Did you get that vibe last time?
I don't see anything wrong, though, with calling him this morning and saying that you woke up craving sushi, and if he hasn't already bought the ingredients for dinner, would he be up for going out instead.
Those kind of dates are "normal" if you've been seeing each other for a while and you're settled in, but not in the beginning of a relationship, IMO. But even then, it shouldn't be the *only* type of date you have!
Has he taken you out at all in six weeks? If he hssn't done so, or has only done so 1-2 times, then IMO he's either really cheap or just interested in the hooking up part of the evening.
Sheri
Then my guess would be that he's cheap (or broke), and/or that he's hoping that the hooking up will happen sooner rather than later since you're having "at home" dates.
I'm with you on feeling weird about suggesting it...I'm not sure what the solution is, other than to say that you'd really rather go out and then leave it up to him to suggest outings. Ugh!
Sheri
....."I don't have financial problems & I certainly don't want to get involved with someone who does. I'm a hard worker & I derserve to be taken out on dates."..... Yes, you do.