Are we done because of the sex?

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Registered: 12-08-2006
Are we done because of the sex?
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Fri, 07-20-2007 - 4:39am

this is the convo my boyfriend had over a text.
me:baby was it ripped or torn? like how much
my bf: Torn just a bit y
me:oh ok. because im just gonna do something tommorow thats all.where was it torn at? umm, how was the movie?
my bf:The top... Wut are u gonna do
me: o.
me:ok. umm im just gonna do something dont worry about it. how was the movie?
him:Good.. Y are u not telling me now i am woried
me:what was the movie about?
me:baby dont be worried its ok i just need to know like i just need to know information
me:well ill just tell u since ur probably freaking out. i needed to know if i needed to take the morning after pill or not. i dont take bc. i only use condoms. but i just talked to my ex (remember i told u about my first-the head neurosurgeon) and he said im totally fine. because i just finished my period like 2 days ago. so im fine. ur fine. relax.
him: I am relaxed... Goodnight
me:so anyway, what was the movie about? stop stressing. its nothing. i promise i wouldnt me:so anyway, what was the movie about? stop stressing. its nothing. i promise i wouldnt hide it from u if it was something
me:baby...ok. do u want to call me tommorow or do u wanna call me tommorow?
him:Ill call u 2 morrow
me:ok. sweet dreams

QUESTION: is he freaking out? is this gonna be the end of us?
for guys- please put your age

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Registered: 08-11-2004
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 7:01am
I don't really see what it is you're obsessing about regarding the conversation. What I do see however is that if you want to avoid pregnancy, you do need emergency contraception. Some women can ovulate at the tail end of their period, and if you're two days past, you are at risk for getting pregnant. If you're concerned about that possibility, go see your pharmacist.
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Registered: 12-08-2006
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 3:56pm
hi i just wasnt sure if i should wait for him to call or i should call or what not. i just want to move past this situation and are not sure how this would effect our relationship
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Registered: 02-05-2007
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 7:48pm

For the record, in case someone else is reading your story

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Registered: 12-12-2006
Fri, 07-20-2007 - 11:31pm
First off, I agree that this is not something that should have happened over a text message... in fact, I would have only had this conversation in person. I can kind of see why he would seem a little off or freaked out. The first thing is that you ask him a very detailed question, tell him you're going to do something and then don't tell him what that is... of course a billion things are going through his mind b/c he has no idea what that thing is. If you didn't want to tell him, the don't ask and just take the morning after pill, or be committed and let him know what you're thinking.... the bigger thing that I would assume did it was the mention of the ex. first off, talking about an ex is a touchy subject, especially when you give him (the bf) that much information (him being your first/types of birth control you used/even the guys profession)... you're bf is connecting the dots that you went to your ex boyfriend and talked about your current sex life with him. I would have told him "a friend explained".... finally, you seem to freak out at the end telling him not to worry, but he already is...as for my opinion on the call/don't call issue? It would seem at first that you should hover making sure he's alright, but i wouldn't.... I think he just needs time to process stuff and if he does end it, then it probably wasn't worth it!
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Registered: 04-15-2003
Sun, 07-22-2007 - 7:08am

Well it's difficult to have intimate conversations via texting.

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