Are we moving too fast?

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Registered: 04-23-2007
Are we moving too fast?
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Thu, 09-13-2007 - 11:44am


Hey guys,


I am finally here to ask for an advice. I don't know if you have read my others posts about being depressed over a long-distance relationship, which ended 7 months ago, but this is a different situation.


After being single for those 7 months, I was dating many men, but never really liked anyone, since I was still missing my ex. Well, recently I met someone from a personals website, and we actually hit it off quite well. We had our first date two weeks ago on Friday. I wasn't expecting the date to go that well, since I just came out for a drink after work not planning on staying for a long time. Surprisingly I really liked the guy. Even though physically he is not exactly the best-looking dude ever, but he is kinda cute, and he also has an amazing personality. I was somewhat nervous when we were having a dinner on our first date, since he kept looking straight in my eyes, and I was stunned by his confidence. That night we ended up hitting a few more bars and clubs. Since he lives in a nearby town, he ended up getting a hotel room, so I went with him. I did tell him that I don't want him to expect anything, and that I was going because I didn't want to go home to my parents (I live with them for now temporarily). He was cool with that, and all we did was just kiss once and snuggled that night. I told him that I don't do one night stands, so he was fine with that.


Anyways, I didn't think that we were going to continue dating each other, but surprisingly he asked me out again a week later on a Thursday night. I ended up meeting his female friend that he knew since his childhood, and we all went to a college bar and socialized for a while. That night we didn't even kiss, but held hands under the table while chatting to his friend. That was kinda cute.


Then, he asked me out again to a movie on a Monday night, and we went for a dinner and drinks again. After that we went to see Superbad and hit a local bar after. On the way home, we were making out in the streetcar, and it was really cute. The next day he told me over msn that I was a great kisser. We talk on msn a lot during the day, since we

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Tue, 09-18-2007 - 2:12pm

I'm sorry things wound up so weird for you guys.

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Tue, 09-18-2007 - 2:17pm

A guy losing interest after sex is always a possibility.

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Registered: 04-23-2007
Tue, 09-18-2007 - 3:29pm

Thanks again, ladies, for your responses.


Sheri:


I am always paranoid that

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Tue, 09-18-2007 - 3:54pm

I think it's always good to be *prepared* for the possibility a guy will lose interest after you have sex, which is not the same thing as *expecting* it.

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Tue, 09-18-2007 - 4:50pm

"A guy losing interest after sex is always a possibility.

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Tue, 09-18-2007 - 5:13pm

Sash...I know that being disappointed at the beginning of a relationship is a downer and it really squelches the excitement and momentum that one should be experiencing.

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Registered: 04-23-2007
Thu, 09-20-2007 - 10:59am

So, I have some news. He wasn't online the whole day yesterday, but I assume he blocked me, so I was over it. I made plans to go for a movie and a dinner

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Thu, 09-20-2007 - 12:13pm

Hi sash96, you had an interesting evening.

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Registered: 04-23-2007
Thu, 09-20-2007 - 12:22pm

Hey snafu,


You made an intersting point. I am a little confused though. How do you think he is testing me, like playing games you mean?

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Thu, 09-20-2007 - 5:13pm

<< I feel really used now, and it seems like I gave away my best card way too fast. >>


Ok, now ... your age and immaturity are coming through (no offense).