Are We Only Friends?
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Are We Only Friends?
| Tue, 10-26-2004 - 1:05am |
I am trying to figure out if we are friends, or friends plus. We've been working together for about 6 months. He is currently dating but not involved in a serious relationship. He continually flirts with me, takes me out to lunch, and always wants to know if I'm going to be at an event he's been invited to. He has always said he would never date anyone he works with, and I am leaving the company in a couple of weeks. We went out clubbing with some other coworkers and he asked me to leave with him to go to a better club. We danced and drank beer all night. He said he thinks we should hang out together more often, because he really likes me and thinks I'm a good friend.
I am confused because his actions say one thing and his words another. Does he think of me only as a friend, or do you think he wants more?

Later on, he pulled me aside and told me that he did care about me, but he has some things he needs to sort out. I told him that I didn't want to talk about it then, because we'd both had a quite a few drinks, but he went on and on. Of course now, I don't remember the whole conversation (thanks to jaggermeister), but I do remember that part.
At the end of the night, he asked me if I wanted to stay at his place and he said he'd stay on the couch. I live quite far away, so I said yes. When we got to his place, we both agreed that we were mature adults, and that we could handle sleeping in the same bed. And we did nothing all night but spoon. The next morning when I was leaving he asked me what I was doing that day. I told him that I was going to help a friend move. He offered his help, which I accepted, I gave him my number, and he said he'd call on the way to get directions.
It has been close to a week now, and I still haven't heard from him. He never helped me move, nor did he call. I have spent a lot of time thinking about this, and I have decided that he is probably interested in me, but wants to keep me safely tucked away in his back pocket.