are we or arent we?

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Registered: 05-09-2004
are we or arent we?
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Sun, 05-09-2004 - 4:09am
Im a dating/seeing this wonderful man. We have been involved for about 3 months. We are very close and see eachother alot. We dont see anyone else and have said " i love you" mor ethen once. Now, im wondering wre we "boyfriend/ girlfriend"? "dating"? what exactly is this

confused

-bluerose
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 05-09-2004 - 12:28pm
He's the one you need to be asking. Did you ever have a conversation about what each of you is looking for? I generally do this on the first couple of dates so it's clear that I'm asking *in general* and not specifically with me. The first step is to find out whether you're on the same page with what you want, and then to verify that he hasn't ruled you out as a potential partner in whatever type of relationship that is.

As for the time line, I've found that it generally takes 4-6 months of dating to begin to get to know the other person well enough to know if you're a good match for the long run.

Sheri