Are we really just friends ?
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| Fri, 06-18-2004 - 11:44pm |
A month later I've traveled to his country on business trip when we met again, one night after dinner we have a nice walk along the beach then sat down and talked until 2am...That was really nice and we very much enjoyed it. During my trip he treated me so well, honestly speaking at that time I had no feeling for him at all but I did enjoy the conversations/ talks between us as it's so comfortable, we talked and shared personal stories just like old friends...He've stayed up very late (until 4am) driving me around the city and talking to me (for more than three hours) eventhough he had to drive home after that which took him more then 1 hour.
My last day he insisted to give me a ride to the airport, note that the airport is pretty far from his house (more than two hours) and my flight is at 10am in the morning, in his country people usually use express train to the airport and accordind to my friend who's living there his idea driving me to the airport was really weird.
Everything went pretty well until we hugged goodbye, he's hugged me pretty closely and tightly and suddenly I felt like I was about to cry (didn't know why)...
We keep in touch since, we talk on the phone and email almost everyday...but we keep calling each other close friends, he told me that he will be there for me whenever I need him, I have his shoulder to lean on, I have his warm hug whenever I need it and he wants this relationship last forever...
I'm quite confused about this, we're not that young for this (I'm 28 and he's 30)...Does friend care that much? He's pretty busy but he could put everything aside talking to me when I'm down eventhough he has to stay up very late to finish his work...And I keep thinking about him everyday and more seriously I think about him whenever I'm sad or when I have problem I want to call him first...
I'm not sure where this relationship will go...We have been talking about my vacation to his country for around ten days (I have some other friends there but deep down inside I know this trip is for him...) but not sure if this is the right decision or not...where should we go then?
Does he really see me as just a friend ? Are we really just friends ? Should I do anything here or just give it up and move on with other chances which is much easier (in terms of nationality/ culture and distance difference) ? Should I just be his friend and wait until he makes a move ? I've never made a first move in my life before by the way...
I much appreciate your advice for this...Sorry to make this message a realy long one but I really need a helping hand now...Thanks
Vivian

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We spend hours talking on the phone and email almost everyday. Frankly speaking I don't think friends care that much, however he once mentioned that (eventhough that it was long time ago in our very first meet)he doesn't want a long distance relationship and he wants to marry a girl who's from the same country. He said that there will be too much troubles in a long distance relationship taking into account the culture and tradition difference...Actually he's a very sincere guy and I've learned from my friends that every girl in his office wants to date him but he's just so cool toward them. He has talked to me about his former girlfriends, how they started and ended. He's kind of picky, but he told me that now he wants to be a bit careful when dating girl as he really wants to settle down (to get married)- He even sets a goal for himself to find another half within this year !!!
Usually after a phone call with him I'm so confused, he says "I miss you so much" but a minutes later he tells me "let's make a bet to see between you and I who's gonna find another haft first ?" and then he says "I know you well, I think I'm gonna win..." ???(yeah he knows me as I don't usually take a chance to be exposed to situations or places when I can meet men - I don't go out with strangers, only with the ones that I've known before...), ??? This is just too confused... what does he mean when he says he misses me and cares for me (sometimes he even says "now I'm giving you a strong hug, really strong just right before your bone is broken???) and he also says that he wants our "friendship" last forever...
Please anyone advise what do you think he wants from me? And if during my 2nd trip we talk about our feelings for each other, will I lose him as a friend if it won't work out ? I think I would be very frustrated if it doesn't work out and don't know how to move on then....
I'm sorry but I need to do something and need some helps here as I keep thinking about him all the times...
Thanks much,
Vivian