Ask him to stay....right or wrong???

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Registered: 06-01-2004
Ask him to stay....right or wrong???
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Mon, 07-05-2004 - 9:58am
Hello again,

I just wanted to get some opinions.

As I have said in prior posts...I have been seeing this guy for over 4 months. We don't go out much...do to him not having a job at the present time (he did get a job and starts next week). We just hang out at my apt. and watch tv. We do get cozy on the couch and give each other back rubs...but nothing else happens. I do always get a good night kiss from him when he leaves.

He was over twice this past weekend, and has stayed til 2:00 am and seems very tired when he leaves. He has about a half hour drive home.

Is is wrong for me to ask him to stay??? I have really wanted to, but have been so hesitant...don't want him to the wrong idea about me. I like him a lot, but honestly I don't think we are ready for sex. Part of me wants it and parts of me doesn't...cause I am not sure how strong his feelings are for me. I guess I just don't want him to think I want sex, if I ask him to stay.

Thanks,

jokobo

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Registered: 06-13-2004
Mon, 07-05-2004 - 10:21am
Well, Lets see--if he lives 30 minutes away and it was 2 am, I think he should have slept over, just for the safety factor. You could always approach the subject by telling him, it's late and you have a long drive home--you could sleep on my couch if you'd like, I won't mind. Otherwise ON THE COUCH should be his clue that it is nothing more then sleeping over. Try it and let us know.
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Mon, 07-05-2004 - 11:06am
Hi surgtech2005,

Thanks for the advice....I will try that next time. I do always worry that he makes it home all right.

Hopefully I will get to try it next weekend.



Though after that I don't know when it will be again. He starts a new job next Monday and will be training for his new job an hour away from home...so he may be staying there for 2 months and only coming home so often...before he starts the job in the area. I am hoping he changes his mind and commutes back and forth. I wanted him to get a job so bad, cause he has been so down about being unemployed. But now that he got one he will be busy with that and probably won't have too much time for me....sure hope he can make some time. Cause I lost him once when he got a job and moved 3 hours away...and I don't want that happening again. Honestly, I am not sure I could handle that.

I am crazy about this guy and I want it to work out for us so bad.

I guess time will only time....right????

Thanks again,

jokobo

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Registered: 07-24-2003
Thu, 07-08-2004 - 3:25pm
Hello again jokobo!

 
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 07-08-2004 - 3:29pm
This may be a silly question...but why wouldn't you just TELL him that you're not ready for sex but you would like him to sleep over because you're concerned about his safety driving home?

Sheri